Seats in the subway
By myahw20
@myahw20 (1115)
Canada
September 20, 2008 10:24pm CST
Do you usually give your seat for an elderly in the subway? I do if I can see that they really need it.
But sometimes I hate it when some people wants you to offer your seat to the elderly by force like they have to embarrass you in front of everyone because you did not stand to give your seat. They do not even consider that sometimes maybe you are sick yourself so you also need the seat.I hate those people. They have done that to my little brother and my mom in the bus and in the subway. It so happens to be that my brother was sick at that time. As for my mom's incident she was actually sleeping and was woken up by the lady sitting beside her to offer her seat to the elderly and the lady did it rudely. Why didn't she just stood up herself? These people are retarded.
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11 responses
@mariab (88)
• United States
21 Sep 08
I do stand up for elderly people on the subway or bus if I'm sitting in the front section (which, by law you should, especially for the handicap). Sometimes, I will when I'm in the back, but if I'm tired or if the bus is too full and it's actually more inconvenient for me to stand up, then I'll remain seated.
On a side note, sometimes, some of the elderly people CAN be rude as well. Once, a seat opened up in front of a crowded bus and no one took it. I offered the seat to an elderly lady and she said "If I wanted the seat I would have sat on it!". Well excuse me for being nice and trying not to break the law!
@sonrisa42 (69)
• United States
21 Sep 08
I think giving up your seat for the elderly or handicap is the right and respectful thing to do but it should be your choice. If I wasn't feeling well then I would say something like "I'd like to offer you my seat but I am feeling a bit sick and I'm sure you do not want me standing if I do get sick" (or something like that). some people are understanding and some are not, that's life. As for the ones who make you give up your seat I would say "If you feel so strongly about it, then give them your seat". In life one can not please everyone, there's always someone who is bound to complain. That's life!
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@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
21 Sep 08
hi! yeah, i can relate to that. i also give my seat for the elderly. if i dont feel that tired, or if im not sick at all, its no problem to me. i have a soft spot for them. :)
but i also get pissed off when people "force" me to do it. i have my own mind. i know that there are people who are maybe older than me, but are still stronger than me. i hate it when they ask you to give your seat for the elders, and yet they cant do it themselves. just a bunch of hypocrites, or yeah, maybe retarded.. :P
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@Leixa003 (867)
• Philippines
21 Sep 08
Yesterday I offered my seat to a pregnant lady. I didn't stand instantly because she wasn't directly infront of me and i was arranging my stuffs, carried to big bags at that time. But to my dismay when I offered my seat, since nobody did, she looks like she pouted and not even thank me or just smile. I know I shouldn't ask something in return but I don't want to feel that it was my fault she was standing.
Well some elderly women are very thankful when I gave thm my seat which makes me happy as well.
I'm sad for what happened to your mother and brother. And your are right. Why didn't just the lady beside her give her seat. Some people are really selfish.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
21 Sep 08
I don't and have never ridden the subway because I don't live in a place and have never ridden in a place where there was a subway. But I do know that when I have ridden the bus there have been a few times that I have moved to another seat so that a elderly person or a person who is pregnant can sit in a seat comfortably. For someone to rudely make mention for you to get up and let a person take your seat is uncalled for. If they are so concerned than they should get up them selves. It takes all kinds in this world I guess.
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
22 Sep 08
I would definately give up my seat for an elderly person, but I think if someone is ill, or has a small child, they also need the seats.
@allurejan (197)
• United States
22 Sep 08
Offering seats to elderly is a respectful gesture. I agree with you that sometimes we are not feeling well. When I get the chance, I tell the elderly that I am not feeling well, or I have headache.
@Chastised_Dreamz (559)
• United States
21 Sep 08
If there aren't any seats available and someone else doesn't do it before me then I do give up my seat for elderly people. I wouldn't if I've been on my legs all day and they're killing me though or if I'm carrying a lot of bags or something.
That's ridiculous that the woman woke your mother up to tell her to give up her seat when she didn't do it herself. I agree with you, I don't like it either when people tell you to give up your seat because they don't know if you have a reason to be sitting. Just because someone's young it doesn't mean that they aren't tired or have another reason to be sitting.
@chaska (170)
• United States
22 Sep 08
I have rode the subway a few times with my children and I offer my seat to the elderly only if my youngest child feels comfortable sitting next to them. She is too heavy to hold while standing for a long period but too young to sit alone. My other two kids do not really talk to strangers but they will usually sit next to an elderly person if I ok it. I understand what you are talking about though. It is not nice for others to make another person give up there seat. They do not know what the other person is going through. They may be sick like you say.
