"love me for what i am"... any comment?
September 23, 2008 6:39am CST
Do you say this line to your partner? Why and why not?
19 Oct 08
i really dont say that line to my partner.. i dont know its kinda degrading for me. like if i said those its like im telling him that im not good enough for him. Cause when u say u love the person..ur telling him/her already that he'she loves you for what you are. People tend to define love in different manners but to love is to accept them unconditionally and no need to say to each other that "love me for what i am!"
23 Sep 08
asking this question made me sing the carpenter's song, "you've got to love me for what i am for simply being me. don't love me for what you intend or hope that i will be. and if you're only using me to feed your fantasy, you're really not in love so let me go. i must be free.. " telling your partner this statement could a bit harsh, it would also depend on how you said it or this could be a point of discussion. indeed, there should be no conditions when loving a person. you cannot say to your bf/gf that i love you because you buy me things i that i like, or because he has a car or because he thinks i'm beautiful, etc. etc. etc.. when you love a person, you don't go after the looks or the possessions he/she has. or what he/she can give you. when you love a person you should not have list of what you want him/her to become, to do, or things you want to change in him/her. we love because we find not only companionship but fulfillment with our partner/s. we can't deny the fact that every relationship has a flaw because nothing is perfect. we have our differences which could lead to discussions where we could utter "love me for what i am" however you say it, it could still result to a fight. but nonetheless when you say it, you also need to think if you are loving your partner with all that he/she is. i have said this line to my partner once & it lead to one fight after another. it made me realise that i should have not said it. why? it's like complaining to all of the bad things that happened in the relationship. so i learned my lesson, i simply love my partner unconditionally. no questions asked.
23 Sep 08
yes because it's so important in any relationship that you learn to love and accept your love one who she/he really is. But before you say it to other person you have to learn first to love and accept yourself for the others can accept you wholeheartedly...
23 Sep 08
yes i say this because to the fact that how can you be inlove with someone who you do not accept whole heartedly even the imperfections i guess in life people whould accept you for your worst if they do they deserve you at your best there is no way that people should change you for who your are you can only change for yourself and that they should accept you besides if they dont they just like you thats that but its not love.. at all.believe me on that.