Losing a Pet - Would You Get Another to "Replace" It?
September 23, 2008 8:03am CST
My daughter's Chocolate Lab was hit by a car yesterday. The accident broke his back and he had to be put to sleep. Of course, she is beside herself with grief. I know you can't replace what it gone and how yo feel about a pet but do you think that it is a good idea to get another pet and if so, how soon after the death of a pet? (my daughter is 22 yrs old.)
28 Sep 08
I am very sorry for the departure of Chocolate Lab.I also have suffered such sadness before.As a person who loves pet,pet is far more than just an animal,but an irreplaceable memeber of the family.I have ever fed chicks,ducks,parrot,etc.Everytime they left me,it seemed my world turned into black and white all a sudden.However,we should always look into the future and be optimistic to continue our life.Maybe the saying is right:"Time is the best cure."I suggest that you not ask your daughter to buy a new one directly.You can take her to the pet market and observe is there something she find lovely again and then take it home.As for the best timing,according to my experience,one month is appropriate.Finally,may God bless your daughter and your family.
• United States
24 Sep 08
I usually have 4 dogs and 2-3 cats so have naturally lost some over the years. Some more heartbreaking than others. Of course you can never replace one pet with another, but for me it has always been a need to fill the hole in the group, the hole in the heart, the hole in the flow. I usually wait three to six months. That gives ample time to grieve and ample time to make room in the heart for a new personality, of the new pet. Everyone is different. And having just one pet and losing it makes the pain more acutely felt at times. Good luck!
• United States
23 Sep 08
I am sorry for your daughters loss, losing a pet that you have had for sometime is like losing a child. I have a peakingese and we have had him for like 8 years, he is like having a 2 year old. He gets sick and you have to take care of him just like a child. I have sworn that when he goes I will never get another one. Too much trouble to take care of at my age. I love this one as if he was my child and sometimes I think he runs this house. Another one will be another pet, but will never replace or be the pet they lost. If they really want another pet I say give it time and look around at what they want. I think running out to get another one as soon as it happens is like the rebound of losing a boyfriend, just something to full the void. One day they will come across a pet that strikes them as the one to get and although it will never replace the one lost it will be one they love and gives them pleasure to have.
23 Sep 08
I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's dog, it is always upsetting to lose a pet. I think, though, that it's better to grieve for the pet that has been lost for a while, rather than rushing in to getting a new one. It is common to want a new animal to replace the other, and fill the void that has been left, but especially with dogs, they become a part of the family, and you can't just replace that. I would definitely get another pet, but probably not for a couple of months at least.