Is it normal to feel angry and cold when your mother constantly picks on you?

United States
September 23, 2008 8:00pm CST
My mother and I are having problems. She's always ragging on me for everything I do. In her eyes, I can never do anything good. Is it normal to feel heartless and cold when someone you love always disses you?
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5 responses
• Canada
24 Sep 08
It is normal to feel angry and maybe that is why you are cold. Have you told you mom that this is upsettign you cause maybe if you talk to her about how you feel then maybe you won't feel so angry and cold as much. It helps when you tell others how you feel and try to work things out.
@hichamov (507)
• Morocco
24 Sep 08
hello Mothers are always like that, always screaming for nothing, not because she don't love you but because she care about you and she always think you are her little baby. there is nothing to do against that and don't take it bad , just keep silent and listen :) because im sure she do love more than you can imagine , she just need to show that she still existe ;)
@super_jj (1417)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
I think that's pretty normal, friend. It stems from the feeling of being rejected or betrayed by somebody important to you. Being your mother, she should be supporting you and not dissing you,right? I guess mothers sometimes (unintentionally) do that to their kids. My mom always has something to say on everything i do. "That's not good enough,jj" "There's a missing note on that,jj" "you need to do better than that,jj" and the list goes on. But i just try to ignore my feelings of hatred towards my mother. after all,she's still mom and she'd still bring me home and cook me chiken soup when i'm sick. What i'm trying to say,irishrose, is it's ok to feel that way about your mother but remember that she's your mother. she only wants what's best for you (although she has the affinity of overdoing it to the extend of dissing you).
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
I think its just normal for a person to be or not. I've been mad at my mom for a couple of times..but it doesn't stay long and I'm willing to forgive and forget.
• United States
24 Sep 08
Yes, that is perfectly normal. It just shows that you have feelings/emotions and are a normal human being. My grandmother is like that, and she lives nearby. My advice would to talk to your mother and tell you how you feel and what you are going through, Also tell her how it makes you feel when she does that. I also believe that sometimes the people that "diss" you don't really realize that they are hurting you. Best of luck, Icarus