What are your thoughts about raising a child that isn't yours?

@Lexus656 (672)
United States
September 24, 2008 12:26pm CST
I have a one year old son. I was engaged to his father or let's say sperm donor for almost 5 years and when I found out I was pregnant I left him only to take him back when I was 6 months pregnant he said that he wanted to be there for his son but that has never happened. He cheated on me after I took him back and i finally was tired of his lifestyle and him my child was not going to grow up like that. So I left him and was single for almost two years gradyns 15 months now and I have met this guy Chad I love him to death and so does my son. Thing is he's my age he's 22 and he doesnt want to have kids of his own until he's a little closer to 30. I would love to have more one day so I am saying that I dont want any more rght now. But the thing is he doesn't have a problem with gradyn he loves spending time with him and is trying to teach him to catch and throw hes always bringing candy or treats for him and gradyn absolutely adores him. yea I dont normally take gradyn around men that I am dating or talking to becuase in the past i have had issues with men thinking that they were going to be with me and not my son im not sure why they would think that since my son comes frist in everything that i do i love him with all my heart and would never do anything that would hurt or endanger him. so back to chad i think its wondeful that he loves me and my son and he swears that he wants to be with us forever and I totally beleive him but whats it like for a man to walk in and raise a child that isnt his? Ive asked him that question a thousand times and he personally days that it doesnt bother him and that he fell in love with Gradyn the first time that he met him. So whats the low down?
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@steve9737 (918)
• Colombia
25 Sep 08
well, I would not mind to raising a child that isn't mine, once I had a girlfriend that had a kid and I really wanted to be her stepfather, of course I wanted to have my own kids too, I think it depends on the person, anyway I always will difficult because the real father would come to visit and he will be always his father not matter what, anyway things didn't work up with that girl and I moved on, right now I am planning to have kids and I don't know I will even have with of my own.
• Singapore
25 Sep 08
I can't accept the facts that i'm taking care of the kids from other parents, when they grow up i'm afraid they might run away and find out their real biologigal parents.
@schulzie (4064)
• United States
25 Sep 08
Well, I don't really know myself from personal experience as I have been married to the same man for almost 20 years now and our 4 children are all ours. However, my cousin met her 2nd husband when her son was 6 months old. They lived together for about 2 years and then got married. Her 2nd husband is really the only father her son has known and he raised him just fine. Her son knew he wasn't his father, he never called him dad, he called him by his first name. They have been married now for about 15 years and her son is 18 years old now. It worked out just fine for them. And they had a son together 6 years ago. The boys love each other immensely and she and her husband are very happy. It can work out. Give it some time and see how it goes. Good luck. [b] Have a great day and happy myLotting!!![/b]