how are you coping?

September 24, 2008 7:47pm CST
I have suffered from depression since well before I had a name for it, most definitely since pre-puberty. It made it difficult to connect with others particularly as a child. As a teenager I used illegal stimulants (self medicating) to manage, although I didn't know that was what I was doing. When I had a child I had to make a choice, keep the child or keep the drugs, I couldn't do both. So I kept the child. So of course my depression became the most important feature of my life. But I coped. Legal meds were heavy stuff like Valium etc. and I did not want to follow that road. I coped for the next 30 years until I picked up an anxiety 'bug' as well. After 3-4 years of this I was really reaching the end, so sought medical help. Thank heaven for modern medicine. Things have never gotten so bad again. My depression is still there, will always be there, but the holes I fall into will never again be so deep. I have told you all this because if you are having similar problems, I will listen.
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@cher8558 (425)
• Canada
26 Sep 08
Hi Tahiti_rose, My God I think I am in your body. You sound just like me. In fact, its scary how much you sound like me. I guess depression is just something we've learned to live with, but sometimes, its a hell of a way to live ay. Cheers, Cheryl
26 Sep 08
yep. it helps if your'e basically an optimist. sounds weird when i write it down, but it's true. i would never have made it this far otherwise. lol
• China
25 Sep 08
I hope you will be ok soon.
25 Sep 08
thank you.
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
8 Oct 10
i feel i get refreshed after having my chocolates. And best remedy is Meditation, try breathing exercise, it will help you balance and handle depression.
@hellcord (675)
• Romania
13 Oct 08
Hi Tahiti Rose - are you really from Tahiti?:) Thank you for sharing. I will give my 2 cents on depression, if I may. If depression is a LONG period of feeling down, useless, low on self esteem and several other bad emotional states, then yes, I too have had it, as a teenager. But no more. Not for years now. So if I may, I will disagree with you, when you say that your depression will 'always be there'. It might, but it might very well not be there in 2-3 years or 2-3 months. Believe me, I know, and have seen it happening. There are 2 and only 2 ways of dealing with Depression, that I have personally tried and found effective. Please try to keep an open mind, as these are usually NOT connected in any way with depression by most people. Both of them aim at changing the brain chemistry, in real, measurable ways. I know you will have reasons to NOT do any of them, but that is your CHOICE so remember that if you are still depressed 2-3 months from now, it is your choice to be so, not lack of options. But I really hope you will give at least one of these a good try for 3-4 weeks and only after that decide what they are worth. So let's begin. 1. Movement. Movement of your body I mean. INTENSE movement of your body. Anything that makes you SWEAT for a few good minutes, and gets your HEART RATE up. Do this for 3 weeks, every day, once or twice a day, and you will notice changes clear as daylight. Now please don't think of Movement being only Sports/exercise. From making love, to dancing like a lunatic to good music, when you're alone in the house, to singing loud in the shower, and also, to massaging your skin and body STRONGLY and thoroughly, you WILL see effects. Try, do it, see and decide. 2. This you might also not like on a first impression, but I am 100% convinced of it, and for good reason. Salvia Divinorum. It is a plant, that you can smoke. It is non-addictive, it is NOTHING like mary jane, so there's no comparison between them. It WILL change your out look on life. The active effect is short, 10-20 minutes, but even a long time after that, your views on life and what's possible for YOU, on WHO you are, will have changed DRAMATICALLY for the better. It is most likely legal where you live, but do check online. So this is the second option available to you. Please inform yourself before trying, and make your own opinion. What I am telling you is that I KNOW that any of these WILL help you out and give you a LONG TERM solution, and change in your life. There are more, but these are the strongest I know. Best wishes, peace and wisdom to you:)
@katkat (2379)
• Philippines
13 Oct 08
I’m happy for you. It’s not easy what you been through, hope for the best for you and your family. In my case I have been depressed since I'm 12-15 years old. I don’t remember the exact age I became depressed as I don’t know I was into depression at that time. I kept busy myself, do lots of schoolwork just not to be depressed. I’m not into severe depression and I don’t have any medications. I tried counseling, joining forums and having my dog helps me a lot; especially my dog who give me unconditional love. I tried to put my life back in track. I try to focus on my future and think of positively. Depression is still there but now I know how to handle it without hurting myself or the people around me.