What's on their mind ?

@alokn99 (5719)
India
September 27, 2008 12:15am CST
An experience while travelling in a form of public transport can be one of a world of unspoken signals and gestures. Some trying to draw attention, some avoiding it,suspicion,irritation,some lost in thier thoughts... What's going on in the thoughts of co passengers? What judgements are they making? Have you ever paid attention and tried to figure this out ? Or Are you to lost in your own thoughts ?
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@mimpi1911 (25467)
• India
27 Sep 08
Hi Alok I just love to watch people. With all their complexities, differences and connectivity they are such a beautiful thing to watch. There have been times when I had just got on to a bus without any thoughts. I would get down at the last destination and come back. Each time the ride had been full of experiences. I don't go on a ride anymore. The bleak colors of my life has taken over the collage of colors of the outside world,. If you get me there!! [u] A Snippet[/u] A mother struggling to caress the baby The baby still safe in her hands smiling The woman right at the corner with a long face May be someone has written her off or she did, who knows May be she's escaping the reality, that wasn't there Look there, the school buddies chirping as if there is no tomorrow The sparkle exudes a fun and mirth of future The lovey dovey couple held on to the back corner seats They have their world to explore Shy, timid, all blushes, she couldnt even hold his hands Then there is that tramp talking to himself Happy, lost, carefree and with much to say, no one to listen He doesn't need one even, learned the hard way The conductor singing his heart out To his love may be, smiling, pausing and happy And, that's there me sitting in my own corner in life Down yet happy with the inner solitude Sometimes its better to be this way....... Thanks.
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@alokn99 (5719)
• India
27 Sep 08
Thanks for sharing that lovely snippet Mimpi. It's really wonderful and apt to describe those thoughts ,gestures and unspoken signals.Not a lot of us watch these things as we do get engrossed in our own thoughts or music or talking to people we often travel with. There are the other strange things and oddities too that i've noticed as well like some guys trying to get the attention of some of the ladies, some flashing their new mobile phone, some trying to make conversation and some getting a shut eye as well. Then there are those who have thoughts of mistrust and fear wondering if someone is prying on them, or checking their belongings every now and then to make sure that all is safe. Each ride sure is an experience.
@alokn99 (5719)
• India
27 Sep 08
It's when we look at this aspect of behavioural tendencies of people from all the perspectives that it makes the whole picture seem complete. The thoughts of mistrust or suspicion do mostly come in due to our unpleasant experiences and it is understandable like in your recent experience. The once bitten twice shy and caution in any aspect of life, i suppose is something that we all go through . It's the way we are. But it does not stop us, does it ? Thanks again Mimpi.
@mimpi1911 (25467)
• India
29 Sep 08
No way it does! We humans fall for these again and again. We fall in love, get heart broken and guess what, still fall for it. And this happens repeatedly. It’s like a full circle. Some things in live never change and our experiences in life make us smarter but do little to actually refrain us from the same. To err is human wouldn’t be so apt otherwise. And this probably makes more sense when a person still lives on, still continues to board the same train which has blasted a few days ago, the woman even knowing the pain and hurt of a child birth still loves to experience it, the parents who know would be thrown off from the house still go there just to have a look at their child! Life is strange indeed!
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@dpk262006 (44124)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 08
I started a discussion many months ago - "Do you observe people at public places" and yours appears near to my discussion.....LOL! Yes, I do observe people at public places and specially at public transport. It is a great fun watching their facial expressions, while they are not noticing me. Some of them remain absoulately motionless while some of them cannot remain without moving or making some kind of gestures. Half of the women, I find, keep on making gestures - either they are touching their faces or setting their hair or their dress. They remain very consicious of themselves while travelling. I also find them obseving other women - what the other one is wearing and how the other one is behaving. Some of the youngeters (specially in Delhi Metro trains) remain to themselves. They simply plug on their headphones, the moment they step into the Metro train, and keep listening to music till their destination comes or keep themselves busy on their mobile phones talking and talking all the time. Good Post!
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@alokn99 (5719)
• India
29 Sep 08
I seemed to have missed this discussion of yours Dpk. This does however seem a subject of interest to a lot people. What i was trying to ascertain from this discussion was the inferences people draw from their observations of the gestures and their behavioural attitude. Thanks for sharing your insight and views on this. Really appreciate it.
@dpk262006 (44124)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 08
That was an older discussion of mine (may be prior to you joined mylot) so need to bother about that.........I just made a passing reference..... I just enjoy observing people very keenly and closely (without they knowing about it)to make myself understand their behavior.
@dpk262006 (44124)
• Delhi, India
29 Sep 08
please read so no need to bother
@James72 (26833)
• Australia
27 Sep 08
I have always been an avid people watcher myself so spend a lot of my time taking note of eveyone around me and watching their behaviours etc. And especially when you consider that I am a living in a foreign country right now and have been living in others for the last few years, I am always far more wary of my surroundings than what I would be back home. I stand out! So if anything, it is me that is noticed more than anybody else; so even if I DID wish to get lost in my own world it is not really possible because in some of the places I go I am seen as somewhat of a novelty! lol. But I am somewhat suspicious I guess of everyone around me and believe that I take in far more of my surroundings than a local person would when in a crowded place.
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@alokn99 (5719)
• India
27 Sep 08
James, your varied travels and living experiences in different parts of the world would make your inputs on this subject very enriching. The suspicious tendency is bound to be there in such experiences. Thanks for the response
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@nanayangel (7694)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
Hi there Alokn! That's a pretty interesting observation. I usually do that with people walking down a busy street. Some in a hurry to get somewhere, some just killing time, some looking for something, some observing like me. Usually, when I am on the ride to or from school, I sleep or think about whatever happened yesterday, or thinking about what will happen on that day, but most of the time, I think of my loved ones who are living far away from me because I miss them so much. That is when I'm alone. But usually, I go to school with my sisters and when that's the case, we will always be found chatting and giggling non-stop.
@alokn99 (5719)
• India
27 Sep 08
I suppose when one is travelling with family or friends then you are mostly engrossed with your conversation with them. You tend to pay attention to what is happening aroung only when something untowardly or something strange happens Thanks and have a wonderful day.
• United States
27 Sep 08
I find I feel a lot of fearfulness but not just on transport but in public in general and sometimes its a little strange how I can walk by a person and just feel a sense of frightfulness from them, fear of trust i imagine. I have trust issues myself but it varies day to day where some days I will reach out and make the effort to give smiles and small talk with strangers but other days I do not want to.
@alokn99 (5719)
• India
27 Sep 08
Fearfulness and distrust seems to be always high in the mind of commuters. Have you ever tried to figure out why ? Thanks
@rocker21 (2720)
• India
27 Sep 08
they are just a timpass, i dont watch them as i have my music and i hardly use public transport!
@alokn99 (5719)
• India
27 Sep 08
Having your music can keep you disconnected. Thanks