Loving you must mean, I really have to set you free!

Philippines
September 27, 2008 12:43am CST
Some people always told me, if you really love the person you are willing to set her free. Oh my gosh, true love only comes once in a lifetime, why should we let go if we could hold on. Do you ever feel that the one you love seems sad and you are the reason why s/he's sad? When every time you see her/him, its like you are born again, but then s/he feels the opposite way. When loving the person is all that means to you, and being happy is all you hope for him/her to be, is that really mean that loving the person must mean you have to set him/her free?
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11 responses
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
Hi there iceblizzard! Your post reminds me of a song. Side A's Set You Free... Well, loving is indeed a good feeling. Being in a relationship is really great. However, when the other party doesn't feel the same way towards you, there is no point in going on with such relationship. If you truly love someone, one thing you would really want is for that person to be happy. Thus, if that person is no longer happy in the relationship you are both into, it is time to let go. You can't hold on to something that isn't there. It would be best for both of the parties to move on and find love in somebody else's arms again...
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
Yes, I got your point. What really confuses me is, she said I'm a coward. Am I right when I said, I'm just brave enough to fight the urge of wanting someone whom I know will never be mine?
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
There is nothing wrong with fighting for your love. What is wrong is when you keep fighting for a battle that has long been over. I hope that you will be able to patch things up with her. If ever it doesn't work out, I hope that you will be able to find the courage to move on.
@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
I definitely think so. Letting go of a person you truly love is such a hard thing to do. Because he means everything to you. You even love him more than you love yourself. I've experienced this already. I felt that he was no longer happy with me and I even found out that he had another girl. I really didnt have any choice but to let him go because i knew that was what he wanted. His freedom. It was devastating but since I loved him very much, i had to sacrifice.
• Philippines
3 Oct 08
Well, I guess I have to one of the members of the lonely hearts band again.
@rangics (1335)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
such a hard question. whew! It's really unfair pal if we hold on to somebody who is no longer happy being with us right?. We need to let go. It's hard but we have to. Find someone who can love and take care of you alone..it may take a while to heal your broken heart but in due time, you'll be thankful enough that you have set that person free..;) More power and Godbless. ;)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
We've been together for almost 4 years now. We share dreams together, we laugh and plan the future. I thought she is the one. Why should I met her if she's not meant to be mine? After all those years, her presence still linger in my mind. I don't know how to let go. Even in my thoughts I can't make it possible. Last night, I was walking myself to lighten up but I ended up to the place where we used to go.
@nanayangel (7839)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
Hi there Ice Blizzard! That's one of my favorite Side A songs. It stings with truth. I believe that if your eally love someone, you'll want to see that person happy even though you won't be a part of that happiness. If he or she will be happy with someone else then let the person go. Love loses its beauty when you put it in a cage and it desires to be somewhere else.
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
What if at the end of the day, the person will you, "your not courageous enough to fight for me". What does it mean? In my case she told me she love, but I told her not to. Unless she means it, I'm afraid I might do something stupid like believe it.
@alto907 (39)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
for me, i will set my love free. i dont see the point of loving a person who do not love me or even return the love im giving him. i will surely be depressed if i will be taken for granted by the person i love. i will not wait for the time that i will go crazy. im sure, somebody out there is more deserving of my love.
@smiley83 (1535)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 08
well, it is such a hard decision to make my dear...but u have got to set her free if she doesn't have the same feelings as you do...just don't sell yourself short..within a short time you will start to feel pity for yourself if you force her to stay under your loving unmbrella where she herself doesn't give you what you deserve in return! Smiley,
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
If you love the person too much but is not happy with you anymore, you better set him free. As they say, love is meant to be selfless, meaning you have to take into consideration your beloved's feelings without even minding your own. :)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I think sometimes you must let someone go and figure things out for themselves before they can be a good partner in a relationship. Sometimes all you need is to just give them a little space. Ask the person what they want and if you love them, do what they ask.
• United States
28 Sep 08
Honestly- I don't know if I have ever been in love. But in certain situations, that phrase can come in handy, I would guess. It's touch to explain.
• United States
27 Sep 08
Wow, I have to say that the original post was very poetic! :) Thank you for sharing your opinions on the subject. I have been with a wonderful fellow for the past year and he has truly been the light in my life for this period and longer. I think that loving someone does include letting them go if need be, but I do not personally foresee any event where it would be better to be separated from one another than together. For him I know I would be willing to engage in a long-distance relationship however long it was necessary. He's very important to me. :) Love is grand, is it not?
@donsky14 (5963)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
if the person is not happy with you anymore then set him/her free..cause if you really love the person then you would want to see him/her happy right? So..if setting him/her free would make him/her happy..then set that person free. For me, that's what "if you really love a person..set him free" thing means to me.