Panic Room
By talker96
@talker96 (154)
United States
September 28, 2008 8:03am CST
So lets say, for arguments sake, that you meet a girl on the street that is your definition of beauty and personality and so because of this you proceed to date. Two months pass of pure bliss. You are actually happy. Then one night over dinner(Chinese to be exact) she tells you that she just found out she is three and a half months pregnant with her ex's(more like fling)child. Now I can understand this, I'm sure most of us had had our few wild party one night stands where drunken passion gives in to awkward breakfasts and false number exchanges, this type of thing I am sympathetic to. And granted, you did meet her only a month after the debauchery so there was know way for her to know that she was pregnant. "So what about the guy?" you say,"The one responsible?" And to that I remind you of the false number that is so often given on that uncomfortable morning viewing, he is as good as gone. So here you are now, happily entwined in a relationship, even thinking futures, when you are hit by a sledgehammer the size of a baby. My question to you, dear MyLotters, what do you do?
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@shell94 (990)
• Canada
28 Sep 08
Does she want to end the relationship with you? If not, do you? If you truly want to keep the relationship tell her so and be supportive of whatever decisions she comes to. She is obviously dealing with alot right now. Props to her for having the courage to be so open and honest with you. Thats rare in this day and age to have someone treat you this way.
Best of luck hun!
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@talker96 (154)
• United States
28 Sep 08
There's the rub, I can tell she doesn't want to end it but she's pushing me away because she doesn't want to burden me either(her words not mine). As incredibly stupid as it will make me look in my families,friends and pet dogs eyes, I don't wish to end it and if our relationship moves forward I would support her no matter what her decisions were. But.... You must admit the incredible strain this puts on us.
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@Lee_Rites (845)
• United States
28 Sep 08
If you have no problem (or not much of a problem) raising someone else's child, then the pregnancy should not be a deciding factor. You could also be swayed to stay with her because you feel that she and the baby need you. That is why I think it is more important to analize your relationship with the woman and not take the pregnancy into consideration.
Chances are that if you love this woman, it will be easier to care for her and the child in the future, if the relationship is to last. If you are staying with her for other reasons, you may find yourself resenting the child down the line.
It seems that you care for her quite a bit. Especially if you were thinking about a future with her after only two months. It may be worth giving the relationship a shot.
@missybear (11391)
• United States
28 Sep 08
If you really care for her you stick by her side,
Maybe later on she can have your Baby.
