Should adoptive parents tell there children they are adopted

Canada
September 28, 2008 10:56pm CST
And what age should they tell them
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@heaven11 (1161)
• United States
29 Sep 08
You know I used to think know but then I found my brother that my mom had given up for adoption and I asked myself do I contact him what if he never knew he was adopted(there are lots of people who dont)I may tear his world apart so I was very worried as to what kind of effect my family and I would have on his life thankfully he had know he was adopted sonce he was 5 and he had always wondered so I got lucky. Iam not sure age 5 is so good but I have heard some people say that they resinted thier adoptive parents for not telling them sooner
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• Canada
29 Sep 08
thank you for asnwering
• United States
29 Sep 08
i think they should tell them but im not sure when a good age would be.. i guess some of it would depend on the kid.. how mature they are.. if they had already figured out something was weird etc
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• Canada
29 Sep 08
thank you for answering
@SachseMom (449)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I think they should because everyone needs to know where they come from and what makes them who they are plus you never know if for medical reasons they need to know more about their family tree. I would wait and tell them when they are mature and old enough to handle the truth. That could be any age depending on the child.
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• Canada
29 Sep 08
thank you for answering
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Umm that is really difficult to tell. I would gather that it would all rely on how mature they are or how well you thing they would take such earth shattering news that will change their whole life. Don't think it won't because it will. They will even began to think different. I have a adopted little sister whom is seven this year and she doesn't know yet. I don't think she is emotionally ready to find that out yet. She was adopted straight from the hospital at birth. She is my brothers daughter. I don't think she will be told till she is older. I know my brother wants her to know because when she was 2 he tried to tell her and it just confused her and he went behind my moms back and did this. My mom lets him have as much contact as they want with her even going so far to let them move in for a long time. But I feel that she isn't really ready to know just yet. I am not sure if she remembers what my brother told her or not but she does call my brothers other 3 children bubby and sissy.
@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
29 Sep 08
Yes I think Children need to know. What happens if into late teens or older they get really sick. With blood work being done and information needed from the biological family that's just a mess. At what age? I think that would have to depend on the child according to his or her level of inteligence and maturity. It would be cruel to tell a child who is still not able to understand it. Just my opinion of course.