Grumpy people in MyLot

@yuna15 (2708)
Philippines
September 29, 2008 12:32pm CST
I responded to a discussion which has a very sensitive topic. I don't want to mention which discussion but the person who started the discussion commented with information I wasn't aware of then somebody else responded saying that he already posted information about it that I didn't bother reading the other posts. Which I thought was rude and offensive for me. I just responded saying that MyLot is supposed to be fun and just apologized. I found myself guilty as well for not reading all other posts however the discussion was so sensitive and I didn't want to cloud my mind and from what I read so far I didn't find it fun anymore. They posted lots of links and information most them are almost in the verge of flame wars which I didn't want to be a part of. I mean they took it too seriously... Again MyLot is supposed to be fun! To everybody just have fun here in MyLot! :)
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@lrglara (1343)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
usually, when i respond to sensitive discussion, i try to approach it in a neutral way. i keep telling that everyone has their own opinion, but its a lot better if you disagree or agree to other people by saying it in a nice way. :) for sensitive topics, i think you should start your response with "this is just my opinion" and end it with "no offense.. its just what i think".. or something like that! :)
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@KrauseHome (33381)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Personally, I try and steer away from the discussions where people are tending to get a little more sensitive. I personally feel it is not worth it to upset someone in here just because you may not always agree. We should be allowed to have differences in here without all of the problems, but since people tend to take it wrong, I just tend to leave them usually alone. For me, myLot is a place to come post in and have Fun. If some do not see it like that leave it to them to decide as well.
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@fasttalker (2798)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I try not to respond to sensitive discussions too. And I also find myself guilty of not reading all of the responses but some are very lengthy and very many. I would try to steer clear of sensitive topics and at least scan through it to see if it is a heated conversation or really searching for facts before I decided to respond. Good Luck and Happy mylotting!
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@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
Actually in the do's and dont's of MyLot it says there that we should respond first before we read the other responses. Probably, the reason behind is so that our response won't be influence by anyone else. That guy I'm talking about is really I tell you. He took the discussion too seriously. He probably has all the time to read all of the responses before he can directly respond to the discussion. Thanks for the response!
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Actually Yuna, you are mistaken. Guidelines state that you should read all responses before replying.
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@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
I must have misunderstood then. Thanks.
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• Philippines
29 Sep 08
hi yuna, I know what discussion you are referring to coz my best friend responded to that discussion and I read that discussion too. I almost want to comment in that discussion but had a 2nd thought of doing so coz I might also add another hot comment which may lead in another misunderstanding of mylotters. When I joined here in mylot my purpose is to gain friends and to enjoy each topics and earning is an additional bonus for me but like you I was disappointed about that discussion but I understand that everybody has their own opinion and we should respect that, such those incidents like that cannot be avoided sometimes. Maybe the best thing we can do is not to be a part of that kind of discussion in order not to create another trouble.And as far as I know mylot deleted that discussion right away?nways, all we can do is just go on and enjoy this site. Happy mylotting!
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@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
Unfortunately the discussion I'm referring to still exists. People are throwing sarcasms with each other in that discussion. I feel that it should be deleted.
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• Philippines
30 Sep 08
yes, you're right that topic still going on up to now it won't stop unless they won't brought up another topic again. My best friend got a negative feedback about that discussion I even told her not to answer back.nways, that's their choice. I just hope it will end up soon....
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@Foxxee (3654)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I have found myself in the middle of these wars... I think when you get two people that are strong set on their opinions it can turn into a war... Mylot is about opinions though && the best thing you can do is ignore it the best way you can. Some take things more seriously then others. Sorry you had a hard time...
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@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
I guess MyLot is a mix of different ethnicity and countries. They tend to be sensitive and all (I'm obviously one of them LOL). It's just that the PRIMARY reason why I joined because it was fun. Anyway, it's alright I'll just avoid topics like that. Thanks for the concern! :)
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I usually steer away from those sensitive topics and when I do answer them, I tend to respond with very bland, generic answers as I've seen the wrath of enthusiasts. I will usually read a couple of the posts on a sensitive subjects and then decide whether or not to express an opinion. I don't want to offend anyonw and like you say, it should be fun. That's the reason I joined in the first place, to make new connections and have some fun. This is somewhere I come to relieve stress, not to get more. Have a great day and may all your postings be happy ones!
@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
Yeah you're right. I should stay away or just avoid those sensitive topics. I'll try to avoid starting topics regarding politics as well lol. There people are of them who are grumpy when they read something they don't like. Thanks for the response!
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• India
30 Sep 08
well you are right mylot is the place where we are supposed to have fun and really enjoy the discussion we start and also enjoy responding to discussion started by others meanwhile keeping in mind that we should also respect others thoughts and try not to hurt their feelings i always try to be safe with such topics and never seriously scratch my head for such people, if they are rude. its their nature and we cant change it
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@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
29 Sep 08
You are suppose to read all the replies, but because mylot STILL have not changed it so I can view the whole discussion from my inbox..since they have not and don't know if they even will, I have many times said something that was the same as another reply..I haven't have someone be really rude about it, but I do say sometimes that if mylot would allow it, there would not be any or as much, duplicates... And if the subject was that sensitive, I can see wy you didn't read the other replies, you wanted to say what you believe and not what another person may say that would change your reply.. So next time that happens, say sorry and go on, I wouldn't even worry about it..
@rainmark (4307)
29 Sep 08
as long as i can do, i always get away to that kind of sensitive topic, i don't want to be part of trouble here coz i came here for fun and earn few cents. Maybe people are sometimes gets grumpy here because sometimes mylot makes us stress lolz. Yes, of course, it's stressfull sometimes to be active and get participate here and people get it too seriously. Everytime i see senstive post i always get rid away of it or i always reply in a nice way, coz i have nothing to get when im in trouble, it only bothers me emotionally. Happy psoting.
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@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Yuna, I'm sorry, but if you are going to reply to or start sensitve discussions, you need to thicken your skin. Especially in matters of a certain religion that shall remain nameless. Yes, I found the discussion, and although I agree with what you said, you need to find the facts to fight back against the idiot that put you down. If you can't, you really should stick to the fluff topics. Please know, I'm not saying this against you. I don't know you. But I wouldn't want you to be hurt by something that you are unprepared, emotionally, to counter. Take care
@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
I learned my lesson I won't respond to discussions like that. Especially if people are too sensitive about it. I guess they have all the time to read EVERYTHING which I don't have. I didn't think that somebody is going to respond like that. I was honest enough to say that I didn't know. I was focused with the information given by the person who started it not by the information given by the responders. By the way, about the discussion you found, are you talking about a discussion I started or a discussion I responded to? The one I'm referring to is a discussion I responded too. I do know the facts but I just don't want to start a debate. I responded to the discussion to show how I feel about it not to debate about it.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
29 Sep 08
The one that you responded to, about the nine year old girls. The one you started, I might not be finished with yet. LOL. That's my pet topic for it applies to soooo many people that I love, including an ex husband. And I do tend to be direct, but I don't get rude unless someone else starts it.
@cyntrow (8527)
• United States
29 Sep 08
And the thing about discussions such as the one about the nine year olds, is that they require debate or downright snarkiness. Religious views is a very anger provoking topic. Sexuality and abortion are likewise anger provoking
@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
30 Sep 08
it's not something new :) if you just search in forums, blogs, youtube comments etc you'll find lots and lots of people that are frustrated and curse each other... all you can say is is that "that's my opinion... if each the same with yours we should agree not argue about it" :)
@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
Yup I've seen those lol. However here in MyLot, it's different. MyLot is supposed to be a good and harmonious place for people around the world. It's okay to talk about serious topics and I know sometimes we don't like the opinion of others but as much as possible they shouldn't be rude about it. Thanks for the response!
@lakantar (1575)
• Greece
30 Sep 08
Harmony + The Internet....
@sharra1 (6344)
• Australia
30 Sep 08
Honey I have not read all the responses here because this is about my opinion not some other persons. The thing is that you have to ignore other people and their attitudes just as you do in face to face life. They are only one persons opinion and may well be wrong. You should do what you feel is right. Express opinions that you think are right and forget the grumpy people. They can express their views as well if they choose. This place is about fun and do not let them put you off.
@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
I appreciate the advise. I definitely wouldn't let them. :)
• India
30 Sep 08
MyLot is fun but at the same time there has tobe a serious element toit if the discusion is a serious one. It all depends on the topic. you can't take a seriously topic frivolously. Idon't know what the topic was that you were discussing, but if a topic requires serious thought,one havs to give it a lot of thought before responding.
@yuna15 (2708)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
I agree. My response in that discussion was impulsive though. They did take the topic seriously however to the point of throwing insults and sarcasms. Which is not good.
• United States
29 Sep 08
It is unfortunet but there are alot of grumpy people on mylot here. I am guilty that I have be grumpy on here before and came off on some people here as being rude. The thing to remember with the people being rude is that they maybe having a bad day and is just taking it out on mylot. Dont feel guilty just let it go. You are right mylot is suppost to be fun. People are suppost to come on here and socialize with other people and exchange information. People dont need to come on here taking things seriously. If you are going to do that then maybe you need to take a day off of mylot or something. I usually dont respond to sensitive topics. But, when I do I try to be careful. You need to be careful also next time you respond to a sensitive topic. If you think you will get involved in a war or something then its best not to respond.