My father cursed me out and said the worst things to me!

I am very sorry for you. I do not know why is your father cussing at you like that when you did him a favor. Like I say I am very sorry. I hope you hang in there and that things get better. (I believe this is the reason I do not lend money to family members (I give them what I can afford and move on) but that is just me. I wish you good luck and I hope you do get your money back.

Awww I am really so sorry about what's happening with your family...I have responded to one of your discussions about this previously and I am really sad about it. I come with a close tie with my family...Would it be possible for you to just forget about the money your dad owe you? I know it's still money and that you need it as bad as he does but wouldn't it be better to save your relationship with your dad rather than have it gone and ruined because of a money owed? Like you for me money is so so important since I have 5 kids, my husband doesn't work and I pay for everything as in every thing and several times I have extended help and support to my other sibs and they as well to me and I may not be able to pay them and they I but we just realized that money is no importance..It is the relationship...The family..If you can let this pass this time and he borrows again just let him borrow with what you can afford to help knowing and keeping in mind that he might not be able to give it back. When you are loose with money and you don't hold it much more money will come to you...Freely give, freely you will receive..whatever good things you do to others it will return to you a hundred folds.I am not saying for you to give all you have to your dad or anybody but please let this pass..Call your dad tell him "Dad you know I really needed that money but I guess you need it more than I do I don't want us to fight over this so I guess you can just pay me back whenever you have it. I won't bother you with it anymore". Who knows your dad might even think about it if you say it to him that way..nicely and calmly. If in case he really doesn't pay up please let go and just move forward. It is much better for you to do so because if not you will be just stressed out, problematic, depressed about the outcome and it will just ruin your family ties with your dad. Wouldn't it be much better to let go?..have a peace talk with your dad about it and move forward.. Try this and I believe you will get a good outcome on it. I wish you all the best and I do hope you get to patch things with your dad soon. Take care always..and remember put a smile always on your face when problem comes along and see it all fade away into nothingness. Blessed be my friend..hugs...xxx

Dear, It sounds like he will never pay you. That is his way of putting you off. Putting you on the defensive. People do that when they are in his shoes and owe money or will not pay and are not going to, they find a reason or make up one to come down on you. If I were you, I know $90. is a lot of money. But I'd wright it off and him and not call or have anything to do with him again. If that is what he owes you then you got off easy. I'd have nothing to do with him. He is causing you more grief and pain over that money than it's worth. If he ever comes up with the money then so be it, I wouldn't count on it. But you shouldn't have to be continously calling and trying to get it from him. If it were me, I'd write it off, and him. I'd just let it go and if he ever showed up with the money I'd tell him thank you and don't ever come around again. But that's just me. There is just too much drama in being around him and too much pain. Know one nees that in their life. There is just too much going on for someone to deal with all of that when life is hard enough. If a parent can not be supportive then be distant. That's what I'd do. And him stealing from you and causing such grief is just too much. That's my advice,For what it's worth dear... you can take it or leave it. Best wishes to you. I do hope you get your money next week.