Things can't get any worse then they are

United States
September 30, 2008 6:40pm CST
I have a 20 year old granddaughter, who just moved in with me a month ago. I got her a job and she worked one day and quit. She said she didn't like the job. I told her we all got to do things we don't like until something better comes along. She says she is depressed and she dosen't know what she wants right now out of life. I told her, me and my boyfriend can't support her. We are on a limited income and we do all we can to pay the bills. Well everything came to a head sunday, he came home drunk and told her, she wasn't laying up in our house sleeping all the time with this one and that one. And think we are going to give her money for her cell phone and smokes. And that she needed to get out and find a job. Needless to say she didn't like it and she called her father's brother to come over to my house to start a fight with my boyfriend and when came to the door I told to turn around and leave, because he wasn't coming to my house and starting anything.
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@celticeagle (115499)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Oct 08
It sounds like you are handling this the best you can. Tough love is needed sometimes. She is 21 for heaven's sake. She can go to a free clinic and get help. They can put her on some cheep meds that will help and she can get the prescription through Walmart or the free med program. She can make it. It isn't easy and it can be tough but, she can do it. She will need your support through it though. Life is too short not to give that or your heart will hurt.
• United States
4 Oct 08
You know tough love is needed with her. But it isn't even working. She still won't do anything and all she wants to so id lay around. And my boyfriend not going to stand for it much longer.
• China
1 Oct 08
First of all ,I am sorry to hear that there is misunderstanding between your granddaughter and you.In my personal opnion, you'd better first try to learn about what she really thinks.If it is too difficult to communicate with her directly,you may ask some of her close friends .Never be angry with her ,for she might have something unhappy in her heart. It does be a pity that her father's brother came to fight with your boyfriend,however ,you need to resolve the problem at last .So try to talk with her father's brother patiently ,explaining and expressing what you think and why you ask your granddaughter to work. Wish to help you a little .Thank you.
• United States
1 Oct 08
It's not really heping me. We want her to help herself and stand on her own two feet. Instead of being with all of these different guys and sleeping with them and thats not healthie that's just giving yourself a name that I don't want her to have.