Becoming friends with the person you once loved

@mayrah (1037)
Philippines
October 1, 2008 7:23am CST
How does it feel to become friends with someone you once loved? did you ever experienced this sort of situation. I believe it's very hard to accept friendship with ex-lover if you know the love you had for him/her is still there, because you may end up regretting that he/she was not yours anymore.
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8 responses
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
maybe that would be possible if each of us has its own family already. so at least, no more chance of getting back together again, you know, it's hard to become a friend to your ex with the real sense of the word "friend" when you're still single and uncommitted. chances are, you will be inclined to be back on each others arms again..coz you can't deny the fact that once you had wished to be married with him/her but the destiny doesn't allow..so friendship with an ex can be possible with no more malice when you two are already married.just be sure to introduce him/her to your wife or husband, so they will not jealous.
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@mayrah (1037)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
I agree with you, may be someday when you're both married to someone else friendship could be possible.
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
yeah..first it would be so hard..you may even think its impossible...but time will come that you will be able to move on from the heartache you once had..I swear..I've done it...he even was one of my best pals before we became lovers...at first it was so hard to accept that he is not mine anymore...I would see him everyday coz we are in the same department in school...it was all so hard...but I did moved on..and now were friends again..but I admit we are not like what we were before...It seem that we have a gap now...there things that changed...
@mayrah (1037)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
Thank you for sharing you experiences here. It really help me a lot. Now I know how far I would have to go to overcome my situation.
@arlenefa (12)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
it is easier to become friends with the person you once loved if you already have a new love and specially when you are already happily married with kids, and when that ex of yours is still single, it's even better.you have to have confidence when it comes to this situations and you also have to be true to yourself as well. You have to believe i am friends with all my exes, maybe not that close but i can tell jokes and converse with them without any pressure.
@mayrah (1037)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
Thanks for sharing you views. Happy mylotting.
@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
it actually depends on how you two broke up...if you had a good break up and had accepted both the breakup then its not that hard...you can be friend with an ex lover by just trying to cherish the good ones you both had..what is really hard is when the break up is bad as ever..if a third party is involve that's when you know you should not be friend with him
@mayrah (1037)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
I see your point. thanks a lot for sharing your views here
@mojcica (1512)
• Slovenia
1 Oct 08
I dont think this is even possible. Beeing just friends with someone you once (or maybe still) loved. Seeing him having someone else, being happy with someone else...I dont think so, I'd rather just ended all and thats it.
@mayrah (1037)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
You have a point there. Thank you for sharing your views here
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
1 Oct 08
Im still good friends with my ex. there are times that i would remember the times we shared together but those are just memories.
• India
1 Oct 08
IMPOSSIBLE is the word.........EX should be an ex and nothing more...even if u are sure that u dont love him anymore ur current partner might feel jealous...Also its better to leave the past alone!!!!!!!!
• India
1 Oct 08
Yes darling, i will endup the relations with that freind who loved me earlier & wanted to creat freindship/relations once again.I don't believe that this type of relations will creat any enjoyment in reallife.i think u may understanmd me. thnks anil