Family comes first even when I am in a relation !!

@bsa861 (339)
India
October 3, 2008 2:34pm CST
You live with your family for years !! They help you grow as a person make a living !! It is only the family member who would help when you are in the deepest trouble !! They don't turn their backs when you need them !! But on the other hand the person who seem to love you most might not do the same thing for you !! So my family comes first even in my relation !! What is your opinion guys ? Thanx and happy mylotting !!
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
3 Oct 08
I agree that we have to give our family the priority even we are in relationship. But I have to remind myself everytime that my partner now is going to be my next family. I would apart from my family now and build another family of my own, so I have to start to manage the time and the attention to both equally. I cannot just neglect the one that I love for the family that I love. vice versa. I would try my best so both of them can get along, and if I couldn't I would calculate the future. Tried to forecast the future. I don't want to lose someone that is destined to be my soulmate for a blind love to family
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@bsa861 (339)
• India
3 Oct 08
Its true that you are going to part away from your family after you are married and going to start your new life, but again you can never neglect your family who gave you what ever you have and made you the person you are !! Your partner must respect your feelings and should try to spend time with your family together :)
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@klaudine (3652)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 08
Yes that's definitely true. Of course, but talking about girl leaving home doesn't mean that she's leaving the family. The blood is however thicker than water. I believe even the daughter have to move out from the home and live in another place family still have the bond that no one have :) I can see that you are a family person. My father is a family person, he spent his time more at home knowing that one day his children would all leave the home, he didn't want to miss any moment of it.
@bsa861 (339)
• India
4 Oct 08
Nice insight !! Yours is definitely best response I have got so far :) Marked lol :D
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• Malaysia
3 Oct 08
Agree with you. Family, especially parents, they are the one love us most. They can sacrifices what ever they have and just to help their children or kids no matter what reasons, even they are wrong. But don't forget, when you in relation, the next level is marriage, that become your own family too. Thus, is a challenge for us to balance that in order not to have any site into problem.
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@bsa861 (339)
• India
3 Oct 08
Yeah man parents don't expect anything in return for their love and affection they give to their children !! But as you said life partner comes next ! In a relation your wife will surely understand what your parents mean to you and she will definitely accept the shortcomings !!
• Malaysia
5 Oct 08
Ya. You are correct too, but sometimes thing does not get so smooth, so still need to put some effort to make it better.
@richiem (3646)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
Maybe the reason why I am not married yet is because I am still taking care of my family. But when someone asked me: which do you love the most, your parents or your girlfriend? I said my girlfriend. We have been in the relationship for four years and have been together for more than that. And I can say that whatever my family would do for me, my girlfriend can do more. Have a nice day!
@bsa861 (339)
• India
4 Oct 08
Thats really great man You care for your family so much !! I accept to some extent that your girl friend loves you the most, but I see people part away even though they seem to be in love for some time !! In such cases your family is the only thing that stand tall behind you and help you !!
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@richiem (3646)
• Philippines
6 Oct 08
I guess you are right. My girlfriend can hurt me a thousand times more than my family can. But of course, we need to trust our lovers as we trust our family.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
6 Oct 08
oh richiem, family can hurt you as deeply as a girlfriend. It goes bout ways. As you said it is trust and one has to have this whether it be family or not. Some family hurt is so deep. When a girlfriend/boyfriend hurt you well you can get over it and move on but when a family member hurt you sometimes it even makes you feel worse than a cow dung.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
3 Oct 08
that's real sweet & i hope u can stick to me but so many girls are jealous of their in-laws to start with i'm afraid you are going to run into trouble down the road. i don't know why they are that way but they sure are. i think it's real silly & very immature but that seems tobe what happens so many times.i had 2 sets of in-laws & was very fond of both setd. i never thought about being jealous of them especially my mother-in-law. good luck.
@bsa861 (339)
• India
3 Oct 08
Ha Ha that really true man !!These gals are so naive,I would rather say possessiveness towards you which makes them thing that if you love your parents you are going away from them !! But a true life partner would understand your feelings and respect what ever decisions you make !!
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
3 Oct 08
i wish you the best of luck.
• China
4 Oct 08
Parents are who love you most, but you hurt them most,but they still care you most. I think nobody can instead of them. Most of the time,we forget their love,just like the air.we have been used to that. It's the greatest love in the world, it doesn't ask you to turn back. Even if we get married,that love in my heart will never changed . I wish every parents have a happy life.
@bsa861 (339)
• India
4 Oct 08
I don't think that applies to every one !! There are a lot of people who love their parents the most and you cannot generalize it !! Parents love is unconditional and their love has no limits !! So, I love my parents the most !!
@lvaldean (1612)
• United States
4 Oct 08
In a relationship as in dating? Yes I would say that you should continue to put your family as a priority. Once you marry though the priorities change. Your spouse becomes your new family and must become your new priority. Your spouse takes first position. If this change does not take place your marriage will fail to thrive.
@bsa861 (339)
• India
4 Oct 08
yeah you are correct after you get married our priorities change !! But your family remains the same !! It is you that change not your family !! So I love my family even when I am in a relation !!
@munhozmib (3854)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
4 Oct 08
Hello, bsa861! Our family is made by our best friends. Friends those who will never abandon us behind. Our family has seen us growing, has helped us growing... They should always be the top thing in your list. When you ever need anything, you know that you can count on your family. Some friends might just disappear, might refuse, but your family will always be there, supporting what you do. Now, even if you are on a serious relationship, you should not leave your family members behind. They all deserve most of your attention. You should also pay attention to your partner. When you marry, things are different. Your family changes, it's like having a second family with your partner. Still, you should not stop giving attention to your family members. One day you might lose your friendships, your partner... But your family will never stop loving you. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
6 Oct 08
My friend munhozmib it depends on the family and how you were grow. You have some family who won't even assist you if you want help but when it is his/her turn it is demands of you. Yes one day you can lose your friendship, partner and also lose your family/relatives too. It is up to the individual if he/she is spiritual incline who will forgive and move on. There are two sides to this discussion.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
3 Oct 08
A love that a person has for his/her relations (parents,sister&brother) is different from the love that you have for a Girlfriend/boyfriend. No two love is the same. There are times when persons will put family before his/her wife/husband and I think this is wrong. There should never be a question of equalities. I don't think that a person should make a choice between relations and fiance. I hope that anyone you married or seeing will understand your stance tho.
@bsa861 (339)
• India
4 Oct 08
I agree with the fact that there should be no inequalities between life partner or family members !! But I see many people who seem to be in love and in a few days they part !! But family remains forever !! Though this is not applicable universally !! The fact remains :)
@tessah (6621)
• United States
4 Oct 08
well arent you the lucky one to have relatives that youd choose over yer mate and conform to their wants and desires in everything you do. not everyone has the benefit of the Cleaver`s.. some "family" isnt even worth peeing on if they were on fire.
4 Oct 08
yaa its true ...and xactly family members omly father and mother ...........i do believe .and i never trust any other than them .i believe and follow what ever they ........... as u said family members means it can be ur relatives also but .......it is preferred only in the past /presently what i hope never maintain gud relation.u might be seeing how the society incidents are happenings ... i mostly give preference to my frnds .....who are really caring .......
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
yeah i strongly agree with you.... family comes first then after relation... family is always there no matter what happened .. you made mistake or not they are always there for you to love and support you in everything they can do for you .
• China
4 Oct 08
It is said that parents will never leave children even if the children are very ugly.No matter what happens ,our family will stand with us ,help us .When we are happy ,they will share the happiness with us .When we are in trouble ,they will understand and help us to deal with trouble. So I love my family .
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
Definitely my family also. I mean i grew up with them . They are the one who knows me. They are the one who is responsible for who i am right now so i owe it to them. SO when it comes to my turn giving back i would not hesitate and they will be the first .