what do you do if your friend becomes possessive about you?

India
October 4, 2008 5:09am CST
I have a friend who is extrememly possessive about me. Even if I m with my boy friend and he says something annoying and I am ok with it, she will go and fight with him. She keeps on calling me to check my whereabouts. This is irritating me. What should I do to inform my friend about my frustration? I don't want to be rude or lose a good friend.
5 responses
• China
4 Oct 08
Actually ,you're the very person who know how to deal with such affairs,and you write these words down just to ask for support.Because you learn most about your friend,and have the purpose to keep your friendship.Here ,the question is ,how much do you really learn about your friend?What you should do is just ask yourself ,if you tell her your feeling in a way you have set up in your mind called soft,will she really get hurt?If you believe that she is your real close friend,then just believe your intuition.Just do it confidently according to your plans.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
4 Oct 08
OKay first I have to say..how good of a friend is she REALLY if she can't give you your space, privacy and so on....I've dealt with obsessive ppl like in the past and in my experience IF you say something NO MATTER HOW NICE, the obessive person usually takes offence and gets all huffy about it..IF YOU DONT SAY anything then you have to deal with this nonsense for as long as you're friends....IMO the best bet is to TRY and tell her that her behaviour is putting a strain on your friendship etc etc and if she can't handle what you say and request then she's really not a true friend to begin with..
4 Oct 08
You should make her understand that sometimes overpossessiveness in friendship may cause harm to personal relationships.............she has to understand this fact or else she wud be the loser
• United States
4 Oct 08
I have had possessive friends as well, but they were not quite as bad as that, though they were still pretty annoying and gave me a fair share of frustration. What you have to do is just be honest about it all, tell her that you have a life apart from her and that you would like to live it sometimes, and that you can give her time, but she must respect the time that you give other people or things. If she takes this too hard, maybe you should not be friends, a good friend will always understand you and respect what you tell them. I wish you the best of luck! Have a great day or night.
@goymon (40)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
it's a sign that your friend really loves and care a lot about you. but being too much possessive is a really a headache for us because sometimes we tend to burst out with our feelings and sometimes point a WRONG WORD TO A WRONG PERSON. I mean if we about to choose between our friend and our partner or bf/gf for that matter, who do you think would be our top priority?