Guilty by association?

@Tianna2 (1274)
United States
October 5, 2008 12:21am CST
Hi everyone, When I was in school, my friends had some other girls that for one reason or another they didn't like very much and apparently the feeling was mutual. There were some in there group that were just looked down on just because of who they picked for friends. Anyway when my mother died, this one girl that was hanging out with this other group wrote a long letter about how sorry she was that I had to go through this and an offer that if there was anything she could do to help, just ask. I really appreciated the letter and the offer but at the time I was pushing all of my friends away and I pretty much just stopped caring about anything. I got into some trouble with the law and drugs but my aunt and uncle did there best to keep me out of to much trouble. Anyway, fast forward a year and a half when I was giving birth to a daughter that I had already signed away to adoption, I was in the hospital after giving birth(as luck would have it), she turned out to be a nurses aide on the maternity ward at the hospital I was at and she spent a lot of time with me when I was there. When I got out all of a sudden she became my best friend and really helped me get my life back together. Before this it was quite a while since I knew what a real friend was and still is my best friend to this day. A few days ago I asked her why she went through so much trouble to be my friend when we really never even knew each other in school and all she would tell me was that god told her that I needed her. I don't write very many discussions here but I really felt the need to pay a tribute to a very special person that saved my life when I didn't really care to live. I gave this discussion this title because when we were in high school, I really didn't care for her because of who her friends were and that was a very big mistake on my part. I will never judge anyone like that again. I love you Charlette!!! So, have you ever befriended someone from a rival group? If so, did you become good friends? Hugs, Tianna
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@ANTIQUELADY (36471)
• United States
5 Oct 08
what a sweet story. how fortunate you have a friend like that. charlette , good for you.i try to help anyone who needs help. it is a blessing to be able to do that. proud of you both.
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
5 Oct 08
Yes, Charlette is like my big sister and she still looks out for me. I'm glad that you can help those in need, I try to do the same as I feel I can never repay the world all that I owe it. Hugs, Tianna
@ANTIQUELADY (36471)
• United States
5 Oct 08
i'm glad you have her. friends are great to have. have a good sun.
@littleowl (7157)
13 Oct 08
Hi Tianna-am sorry this answer is so late...there was one friend I knew when I was young but we wern't that close but as the years went by I met her when I had just got married she became my best friend and now we have known each other for 39yrs..a lot of water has gone under the bridge throught hat time so cannot fit it all in here but now we only live a few miles apart and I am now divorced but my friend is now here on Mylot and is one of my referrals..it's amazing how life takes you in circles and then brings you to a special person whom you knew but so long back..brightest blessings littleowl
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
14 Oct 08
Hi Littleowl, Its heartwarming to hear that your still friends after thirty nine years, I do hope my friendships last that long. I think everyone should have at least one very special friend in their lives. Hugs, Tianna
@ellie333 (21018)
5 Oct 08
Hi Tianna, Charlette sounds like a very loving, giving caring person and I am so pleased that she was therre for you when you were going through such a tough time, it just goes to show we should never judge anyone and take each person as we find them not by who they happen to be friends with eh! I know many different people from many diferent groups but I will not let one group influence my friendship with somewone from another as it is wrong to do so and not fair on the individual. Thank you for sharing this story. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@Tianna2 (1274)
• United States
5 Oct 08
Yes, she is a very special person and I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for Charlette. I have learned that people are people and judging them by what group they are in or who they are friends with can cause you to miss out on quite a bit. Huggles, Tianna
• China
5 Oct 08
Hi,Tianna, The story is very affecting!Good luck!
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