do you really read the content other than the title of a post?
By Popsiecles
@skbh12 (2946)
Philippines
October 11, 2008 1:26am CST
[i]good day or evening to you mylotter!
yes i am asking you if [/i]
DO YOU READ THE CONTENT OF THE POST YOU CLICK ON OTHER THAN WHAT IS WRITTEN ON THE TITLE?[i]because i think most of the people here really don't. 
they react on things easily without knowing what is really written in a topic... 
i am here to defend a friend who happens to be a very keen observer with the people she deals with and the surroundings she is in it. you may think this has mislead you with the choice of words she has chosen but with those words there is a deep meaning behind it.
i am pertaining to a post she made [/i] FILIPINO'S SUCKS[i].. she was being being misjudged 
by telling her that she has this attitude or she is being rude of what she has posted. she isn't even an anti-filipino person. don't tell me filipinos don't use this word when they try to criticize other elses country like this country sucks, that country sucks.
she may have caught your attention but this was to inform you that filipinos designated in other countries does not bring with them the values that has been taught to us by our parents during our younger years.
it is indeed true based on the experiences my friends had as what they have encountered with their co-filipino workers somewhere in saudi arabia. in this place, you will see the real attitude of a filipino by the way they treat their co-filipino worker.
i am a [/i]filipina[i] too and as a close friend of her, i would like to defend her from being misjudged by other filipino mylotters here. she is not doing this just so she can earn more from the responses you make thru her topic. it did receive a lot of response to it but mind you she is just vocal of what she observed. suck is just a word. it may be hurting but when you read the whole text you may agree to what she is trying to say.
this title goes out to other topics being made too.
[/i]
READ THE CONTENT FIRST OTHER THAN THE TITLE BEFORE MAKING ANY FURTHER REACTIONS...
don't mind too much on the word that is being used..
REMEMBER WE HAVE OUR OWN FREEDOM OF SPEECH AND I KNOW ONE DAY YOU'LL BE USING THOSE NASTY WORDS TOO IN YOUR TITLE..
happy posting and happy mylotting!
they react on things easily without knowing what is really written in a topic...
i am here to defend a friend who happens to be a very keen observer with the people she deals with and the surroundings she is in it. you may think this has mislead you with the choice of words she has chosen but with those words there is a deep meaning behind it.
i am pertaining to a post she made [/i] FILIPINO'S SUCKS[i].. she was being being misjudged by telling her that she has this attitude or she is being rude of what she has posted. she isn't even an anti-filipino person. don't tell me filipinos don't use this word when they try to criticize other elses country like this country sucks, that country sucks.
she may have caught your attention but this was to inform you that filipinos designated in other countries does not bring with them the values that has been taught to us by our parents during our younger years.
it is indeed true based on the experiences my friends had as what they have encountered with their co-filipino workers somewhere in saudi arabia. in this place, you will see the real attitude of a filipino by the way they treat their co-filipino worker.
i am a [/i]filipina[i] too and as a close friend of her, i would like to defend her from being misjudged by other filipino mylotters here. she is not doing this just so she can earn more from the responses you make thru her topic. it did receive a lot of response to it but mind you she is just vocal of what she observed. suck is just a word. it may be hurting but when you read the whole text you may agree to what she is trying to say.
this title goes out to other topics being made too.
[/i]
READ THE CONTENT FIRST OTHER THAN THE TITLE BEFORE MAKING ANY FURTHER REACTIONS...
don't mind too much on the word that is being used..
REMEMBER WE HAVE OUR OWN FREEDOM OF SPEECH AND I KNOW ONE DAY YOU'LL BE USING THOSE NASTY WORDS TOO IN YOUR TITLE..
happy posting and happy mylotting! 1 person likes this
12 responses
@mojcica (1511)
• Slovenia
11 Oct 08
I think it was normal reaction, no matter what the content was the title itself was written in a way to offend others. If someone written Europeans sucks, I'd be all over that, no matter what the content was and I do read whats written under the title lol
If someone would tell you you suck you'd feel ofended even though they might be refering to something you did...its just not a nice word to hear. 
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@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
[b]yeah i know but she knew the risk of posting such nasty words as her title. this was her strategy to catch attention so readers will visit her topic and for them to inform what is going on. you know there are people here who looks for interesting title lines right? when the title that is used is not as appealing as you think it is, would you bother to visit them? some wouldn't. when all the while the content of it has a deeper meaning and that it has something else to say and warn co-nationalities out there.
well i respect with the views you had on my topic...
that is what you call
FREEDOM OF SPEECH
say anything you want to say. express how you feel. it is still your choice of words. it is YOUR VIEW...
it may sound nasty or what but that is how it is..
but in reality, most of the users here don't read what is in the content. hahaha! as what you have noticed in too..
happy posting![/b]
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@mojcica (1511)
• Slovenia
11 Oct 08
But the problem with choosing such a title is exactly what happend, people didnt read it because the title itself said enough. Maybe some of those people, who now only jumped to the title, would read what she said if the title wouldnt be so provocative.
But again I have to agree about titles lol I too choose what to read by the title, not necessarilly answer though...this I decide by the content :))
have a lovely day/weekend.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 Oct 08
[i]Hi skbh,
ohhh...I believed I haven't read that post, wish I will be able to bump that! But about your question, I always read the title before reading the entire post and that will give me an idea what was the questions and what is the post all about!
I experienced also having responses which is totally out of what I was asked, I was thinking maybe they don't read nor don't understand my post!
ANyway, I agree with you...we have to be very careful and we have to read and understand the entire post before reacting and we have to RESPECT each other her[/i]e!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
12 Oct 08
hmm...this post makes me excited to find that particular topic to have a full understanding and comprehension!
Tried to search yesterday but can't find it!
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
[b]hi che!
unfortunately that is what i did not see with some mylotters. they didn't respect the owner of the post and they have judged her that fast.. they were calling her like anti-filipina and all when all she wanted to tell them that some filipinos has left their traditional values in the country as they flew in some places..
another thing is she may have used the wrong choice of word but then she was noticed. sad thing about it is that, they didn't read the whole text. there was a reason behind it anyway.
now they call her pathetic for doing such a thing.
haha!
if she was after the earnings, why is it her post points are still on 200?? she could have been active since the time she joined mylot.
she had other interesting posts started and yet she get like less responses which were interesting and with a lot of sense. what is it that they want to react on?
lame titles??? hahaha!
happy posting![/b]
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@deserve40 (1656)
• India
11 Oct 08
I do read the contents of the post before responding to any discussion. I think that it is essential to go through the contents of the thread otherwise you will not be able to understand the thread properly and will not be able to respond to it properly. The title of the thread do not convey the whole matter of the thread and even I have found that some members write someting else in the title and the contents are different from the title. In such condition,if I start responding, then my response will be directionless.
However, here I would like to confess one thing that for this thread I have not read the whole contents of the thread. It is too lengthy. I was thinking of not responding to it but somehow I have responded.
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@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
[b]hi deserve40!
that is okay but the thought of the whole content of my topic is about the matter of reading behind the title of a discussion made. i have so many things to say that is why it is a bit lengthy.
i would like to take time to thank you for responding to my discussion. anyway, the title itself tells it all. hahaha.
your post did fit somehow on my discussion.
happy posting![/b]
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@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
11 Oct 08
I remember reading her discussion about her finding on how more people responded more to a negative discussion vs a positive one and yes, they were focus on the title,
this is my time to leave the computer, but it comes a time when people get tired and yes, they skip reading the discussion and answer to the title. after all sometimes sometimes that is where the question is.
I do not do that, if I get tired, I'm off the computer, like right now,
I hope people do listen to this discussion.
Thanks and good luck,
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@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
[i]hi there shellyb!
it is great to know that you have agreed to what i have written in my content. i have noticed this thru the responses they left in her discussion. it is just hurting to see her being judged so easily just because she is that open minded, vocal person who only expresses out her feelings of how sorrowful she is to witness this herself.
you are right..[/i]
[b]IF YOU ARE TIRED FROM RESPONDING TO SO MANY DISCUSSIONS, THEN TAKE A TIME TO REST. NOT JUST ANSWER SOMETHING WHEREIN YOU DON'T TAKE TIME TO READ THE CONTENT.
[/b]
or maybe
[b]THIS IS ALSO THEIR WAY OF RESPONDING TO SOMETHING THEY DON'T READ ON JUST SO THEY CAN EARN!
[/b]
[i]hmm..
happy posting![/i]
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
13 Oct 08
Well at the end of the day people would do whatever makes sense to them.
As far as people asnwering to make money it took me a long time to get my first pay from mylot and some people might want it sooner than that.
I think the balance is to try to understand everyone, and make sense of the discussion as we see them and understand, that is why I try to read each discussion and read each title too, because that is what makes sense to me and what I think I can do.
@adihindu (1922)
• India
11 Oct 08
I will read all the content of the discussion but when the matter looks like heavy like yours, I will just skip all the matter and go to the next discussion. As the title gives some information, I replied that I had not read your discussion. Actually my interest is not to respond to your discussion. But to know you only I am writing this response. I don't feel bad even this response was deleted.
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@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
Hello! I agree for what you have said about our topic herein It is simply because like the sayings " Do not judge the book by its cover" if we cannot read carefully and understand what we are reading there must be a misunderstood. Not only in our discussion but to all those books or magazines and lots of reading material we"re going to read. It is necessary to understand every details and let us feel the authors message.
@zer0charly (5614)
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
hi skbh12!, I haven't seen her discussion, but if I am going to read it, I will definitely get mad or being disappointed about the title of her topic. I mean, of course, look at that.."FILIPINO SUCKS".. of course, it was just a normal reaction if they'll be mad or something. and even if they've read your friend's discussion.I hope that your friend think of another title for her discussion aside from that.
anyway, some mylotters here make a title of their topic just for the sake of getting respondents. I mean just to get our attention. title's sometimes misleads us, so I myself, really read their discussion first before giving my opinion or reaction on what the person wrote in his/her discussion. I believe that for me to give a good response, I should read it first and understand what the person wanted to say. a good reader is a good writer.
and of course, we should be very careful with the words that we'll going to use in here. after all, we can't please everybody.
anyway, some mylotters here make a title of their topic just for the sake of getting respondents. I mean just to get our attention. title's sometimes misleads us, so I myself, really read their discussion first before giving my opinion or reaction on what the person wrote in his/her discussion. I believe that for me to give a good response, I should read it first and understand what the person wanted to say. a good reader is a good writer.
and of course, we should be very careful with the words that we'll going to use in here. after all, we can't please everybody.
@argie713 (1809)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
The problem here is that people read the title first. If the title is quite interesting then people would read the discussion. The problem with that discussion is foreign people would just browse through the topic title. They would not even care because they are not Filipinos but the title would leave a bad impression on them. If you browse through that topic, you can see that most Filipinos responded to it because they don't like its title. Nobody would rant if they don't see something wrong with it.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
11 Oct 08
[b]it is okay to post something negatively with the discussion but the mere that they judged her that fast, IS NOT RIGHT! most of them reacted over a title and didn't take time to read the post.. it was just an observation she had in the place she lived in..
how would you feel if i criticized you on what you posted when all you wanted to do is to voice out something for others to be aware? as well as not reading the content and focused more on your title???[/b]
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
12 Oct 08
I have not read the post that you refer to but I always read the content of a post not just the title. I firmly believe in free speech and I know that some people here try and stop freedom of speech by being insulting and aggressive in the hope they can force people to conform to their will.
It can hurt if you let it but there was a phrase when I was a child that said "sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me". Words can hurt if you let them, they can hurt emotionally but only if you let them hurt you. I know it can be hard to avoid that hurt but it is possible. The key is to remember that the people who attack like that are just nasty and not worthy of your notice. They are ignorant and narrow minded and the world has lots of people like that. The important thing is to be true to yourself and not let them get to you.
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
13 Oct 08
I understand that some people thought she was attacking them personally but a quick check of her profile would tell them her country and then they would have to stop and think oh. I bet they did not even do that. They probably thought some foreigner having a go at us when it was not the case. I am not sure you can reason with people like that.
I think it was very wrong to criticize her for what she said. Some people take offense very easily. I have not seen the post but had I come across it I would have looked at the content to see why she wrote that title. The people who attacked her would have formed their prejudice from the title only and were too closed minded to read what she was saying. I do not think it would matter what she said they would not have listened as their minds are too closed to hear any view but their own.
I have been attacked by people who never read beyond the title and completely misunderstood what I was saying. In fact the person's attacking posts were deleted because they were abusive but I did not take them to heart I was more curious as to why the post upset him.
@skbh12 (2946)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
yeah. well there are types of people who can't bravely face the reality of what is going on in this world. you are right about what you stated.
"Words can hurt if you let them, they can hurt emotionally but only if you let them hurt you."
some people always thinks that with the posts they had made, they were not able to say any hurting words against other people. you may refer to other people by using such titles just as what others have suggested, "some other people blah blah blah" but when you try to go over the content, the thought of insulting other nationalities is still there. she may have done something wrong but criticizing the person is too much.. right?
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
11 Oct 08
yeah, it's sad that she is judged like that. it reminds me to mass demonstrants protesting against a new act introduced by the government. and when a demonstrant was interviewed by a tv reporter if he already read the new act, his answer is "not yet" 
how can you protest against something you don't know? that's ridiculous!
anyway, in the past i also sometime answer without reading the whole description, just the subject. and i one time was claimed by the starter as my response clearly implied that i don't read the description 
that's indeed, not the proper way to answer. some discussions are tricky. its title sometimes doesn't represent it's description at all. a simple example, someone here started a discussion titled (something like) "do you like spam?" the title-responder will definitely answer "no", as they think that it's spams in our inbox. while she meant the spam is "a tinned meat product made mainly from ham" LOL.
how can you protest against something you don't know? that's ridiculous!
anyway, in the past i also sometime answer without reading the whole description, just the subject. and i one time was claimed by the starter as my response clearly implied that i don't read the description that's indeed, not the proper way to answer. some discussions are tricky. its title sometimes doesn't represent it's description at all. a simple example, someone here started a discussion titled (something like) "do you like spam?" the title-responder will definitely answer "no", as they think that it's spams in our inbox. while she meant the spam is "a tinned meat product made mainly from ham" LOL.
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@srikool (936)
• India
11 Oct 08
ya nice question..this is based ont he time or my mood..if im so tired i dont want read the content..just i want to replied to the topic..if im in a good mood..surly i will read all the things..i will give a better answer to that question..i used to take sometime to think about that topic..else i will type whateever i think related to that in my mind..now also i didnt read the content..im so tired now..and one more reason is your contet is so big..lol..have a nice time
