Have you ever moved far away from your partner? How did it work out?
By thinksf
@thinksf (152)
United States
October 11, 2008 4:22pm CST
My partner and I have been together for a year and a half and have a strong relationship, but with the usual ups and downs of any relationship. We both live in Florida and have been wanting to move to the San Francisco Bay area for awhile now. We both planned to move when she's done with college in the summer or next fall, but a job opportunity has opened up for me out there now, and I might be moving there within the month.
My question for you all is, have you ever had to make a cross country move away from your partner, or a far distance in general? How did it work out? Did your relationship survive?
We've had to live apart before, but in separate cities in the same state five hours away. That was hard, but it made our relationship stronger. As they say, "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
The plan is for her to move out to the Bay area once she's done with school in the summer or fall and join me out there so we can start a life together there.
Any thoughts, opinions, personal experiences welcome.
1 response
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
12 Oct 08
Yes. I have moved far away from my partner because I had to. My family relocated to some other province (state) miles away from where we resided. I had no choice but to go with them because I was still 13 at the time (2003).
I left my boyfriend and told him that things wouldn't the same anymore. But because we were so in love at the time, we decided to continue on with our relationship.. and a long-distance one. We get to see each other every 3-4 months for the past 4 years. It was definitely not the prettiest kind of relationship because you both rely on each others' loyalty, faithfulness, etc.. We don't see each other that's why we can only "trust" each other with whatever things. We had lots of ups and downs, break-ups for many reasons that I can't even remember all.
Just this year (2008).. I decided to go back to where I lived before.. so here I am now.. The ending? My boyfriend of 5 years and I broke up 6 months ago because we couldn't understand each other anymore. Things aren't like before. He matured. I matured. We both changed. and I think so as what we feel for each other. It was definitely sad because just when we can be together (finally!), it all ends. I have no regrets though. I have learned lots of things in life.. and it made me a better person.
As for you and your partner, its nice to hear that you have a strong relationship. It gets even stronger when both of you are away. You definitely have to "trust" each other and hopefully, you'll both be faithful to each other. In my experience, "long distance relationship" really works. :)
Best of luck!
