Who will you choose your love or your bestfriend?
October 13, 2008 3:54am CST
I have a bestfriend which i really love so much because she's one of my real true friend eversince our high school days that's why she's my bestfriend LOL kidding aside though it always been a problem to me eversince i had a girlfriend well, it always turn out that my girlfriend doesnt like her or get jealous with my bestfriend. I really dont know what to do, i know sometimes me and my bestfriend is so close that we know all our flaws even our darkest secrets :) its just the two of us who really knew it. Have you been on this situation? That your girlfriend told you to choose between her and your bestfriend? Who will you choose and what would you consider first love which you knew she might be your lifetime partner or your friend which is always been there for you through thick and thin?
15 Oct 08
Thanks for the reply yes i guess i have to weigh a lot of things before i decided whats to be done and undone in my relationship between my bestfriend and my girlfriend. And what will be the outcome if i choose my bestfriend and if ill choose my girlfriend right? Thanks for the advice.
13 Oct 08
i guess she get self conscious. you have to do boundaries to each of them for it is not good to see that you are very close to your best friend and turns her to be offended because she feel that she doesn't belong to what you have.
16 Oct 08
thanks for the reply. we'll i guess there's nothing for her to get offended because my bestfriend is also her friend. If not for my bestfriend maybe we're not together. It's just that she doesnt trust me and she gets jealous for no reasons at all.
13 Oct 08
it is something that was not related to me. but i saw something similar in my life. In this case the life of Best friend was ruined by the guy a swell the Gf of the Guy.In this way of closeness the guy involved the best friend intimately and behaved as lover to her as well. his Gf got very bad at it and abused the best frriend. then the guy even started behaving bad with his best friend
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21 Oct 09
I was in this exact position except i was "the bestfriend" In my situation my bestfriend had tons of girlfriends all the time and everytime his girlfriends never liked me. Me and my bestfriend were together all the time except during school because he was a year older than i was and his girlfriend was a year younger than I was, so she is making my senior year so dramatic when i never asked for it. the main pointing break for me and my bestfriend was when his girlfriend decided to lie to him and tell him that I had told her during school that my bestfriend was cheating on her with some girl (which he was) but i never told anyone. basically we went thru a rough patch where in the end I realized that his girlfriend was going to do anything to end our friendship, so finally when she couldnt she made him choose and when i saw that, I was the one who told him not to choose and told him to stay with his girlfriend because he didnt believe me so obviously we werent that good of bestfriends if he doubted my loyalty to him. Instead of telling me not to go, he told me that maybe i was right. that really hurt that he chose his girlfriend of less than a month instead of telling me his bestfriend of 3 years that he wouldnt let a girl get between us. so just think hoyour making her feel. if your gf trusts you she shouldnt even make you choose.