managing your 10 year old son's use of computers

@kens425 (436)
Spain
October 14, 2008 2:03am CST
being a chip of the old block, my 10 year old son likes to do almost all the interests and hobbies i do, from taekwondo, driving, and even the gadgets and computer I use he likes to do it or have one for himself. from the constant begging i was forced to buy a laptop for him, i set up a small wireless network for our home so that he can access the net with it, i noticed that he stays in his room most of the time after that, however i found out when i viewed his screen remotely that he sometimes visits websites that are not supposed to be viewed by minors, can you please advise me what to do in order to control this without confiscating his newly acquired computer
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
14 Oct 08
A friend of mine has 2 daughters who are very computer savvy. In order to keep them under control, he set up ALL the computers in the house along wall. His computer is first on the left & then his 2 daughters computers are next & finally his wife's computer on the right. The girl are NOT allowed to turn on their computers without Mom & Dad at their computers. He has a minicam aimed on the computers ALL the time so he knows if they sneak on. Not only can he see what both girls are doing while they are online, they can see what he & Mommy are doing. Soooo, it's keeping the whole family on the straight & narrow. The girls are only allowed on some children's sites & some occasional research sites. It has worked well in his household. Children will ALWAYS try & skirt around the rules. It is the parent's job to stay atleast one step ahead of them!!!
@kens425 (436)
• Spain
15 Oct 08
the thing is he takes the laptop computer with him, its wireless, anyway thanks i'll try to imitate that strategy
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@LadyMarissa (12165)
• United States
15 Oct 08
Why does a 10 year old need to take a wireless laptop with him??? Since you know he has been going where he shouldn't, confront him & tell him he will lose the computer if he does it again. When he does it again (to test you), take the computer away. He will have a fit...let him. It is his job to test you. It is YOUR job to protect him from himself!!! A child cannot learn boundaries if there are none!!!!!!