does the relationship still work out when one party is in love with another?

Philippines
October 15, 2008 12:42pm CST
they say that one of the most effective way to get over someone is to look for another one. but does the relationship with that another works out? what exactly is the success rate in those relationships?
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• Malaysia
16 Oct 08
hi more, i have one question, although i know it is out of topic, as you never specify the relationship if your relationship with your mother does not work out will you look for another and hope it works out .... n the success rate is 0% as you cant change so many things like dna first of all, if that someone is dear n special to you, you have to do all possible way to work it out and not just jump onto the next taxi ... secondly, if that person is with another ... and look fr someone better... cheers
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
good point.. but i think finding someone new is not always a conscious decision. sometimes, we just misinterpret our feelings and think that we are over our previous relationship
• United States
16 Oct 08
I don't think that this would work. You have feelings for someone else -- you'd start resenting the person you're with and putting the relationship in jepoardy anyway. The other person wouldn't know why you're so unhappy ... It's really unfourtunate when this happens and it happens more often than not but a person's feelings aren't to be taken advantage of - if someone is in a realtionship that they have no feelings for the other, the least you can do is give them honesty and walk away.
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
i think most of the time, the problem lies in the fact that usually, that person thinks he is in love with the one that he is with. When we're hurting, we normally seek comfort in our friends, loved ones, etc. and in doing so, it places us in a more vulnerable state and it is much more likely that we misinterpret what we feel for someone. If we're sad and someone makes us happy, we take that happiness as a sign that we are over with the previous relationship and that we like the new one in our life.
@Not_Sure (29)
• United States
15 Oct 08
I beleive that they call those "rebound relationships". I have never had a good experiance with one either from my end or theirs. But I'm sure out there somewhere a miracle has happened for someone.
• Philippines
15 Oct 08
It could work, but that's a lesser chance. Best advise? Get over it, and move on. ;)
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@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
16 Oct 08
I think that is kind a unfair just not feel hurt or make it sensible. For me if I will do that I would end first my relationship with my relationship or moving on first with my life before I go and have another relationship. I just don't want to cheat or stepping another shoes. Abd I just don't want her to tell me I cheated on her. I just want everything to settle first and that is breaking up with my gf. Or maybe we can seat down and fix it or space to think about what went wrong. Have an nice day!
15 Oct 08
no it will not cuz if he or she has feelings for someone else then he or she doesnt love u cuz he or she should be devoted to the love he or she says he or she has for u. But u should tell that person that they need to work out thier feelings with the other person first then decide what to do with the current relationship
@galoforce (264)
15 Oct 08
i believe that when this occurs, the other half becomes jelous as it become as if they are having to compete for there other halfs love, even though the person then are in love with may not feel the same way at all. and relationships like this hardly ever work out, as things get difficult and twisted.