What's the most embarrassed thing do you have in a friendship?

China
October 16, 2008 8:28pm CST
We agree that friends play an important role in our life.But sometimes something unhappy happens.For me, the most embarrassed thing with friends is about borrowing money. When friends have financial problems, they ask me to borrow money. But some of them offen forget to pay back. I'm totally bad at handling this situation. I'm shy to ask the money back.
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5 responses
• China
20 Oct 08
This is indeed an embarrassed problem. I have a suggestion that before you borrow your money, first you should know about what kind of person your friend belongs to. If he or she is not worthy of being trusted, you can refuse him or her. The another way is that you could find a chance to remind your friend of this thing. Maybe he or she has really forgotten.
• China
20 Oct 08
Thanks for your suggestion,i think i should learn to say 'no' to others.
@san1231 (24)
• India
17 Oct 08
Sure, money spoils any good relationship. As a friend we have to support friends in times of need. But at the same time when the borrower is reluctant in returning the amount or unable to repay the amount.See u'r friends situation. If he is unable to return the amount as a friend u'r helping him. But when he is reluctant don't give money again. Just keep silence and handle the problem in this way. It woun't hurt anyone. A good friend woun't behave like this. Isn't?
• China
17 Oct 08
You're right.True friends support each other.And we make friends with those who have a good behaviour.
@BriNbai (912)
• United States
17 Oct 08
I learned a long time ago that you either dont let a friend borrow money, or you instead of letting them borrow it pretend you gave it to t hem as a gift. That way when you dont get it back you dont feel as bad and you dont ruin your friendship over money. I mean if you let someone borrow money , that moneys gone so jus consider it like you gave it to them. The most embarrasing thing for me aside from the money issue is when you have to be completely honest with them even if they dont want to hear it.
• China
17 Oct 08
"when you have to be completely honest with them even if they don't want to hear it". Sometimes, i tell white lies to friends.I think it's not a bad thing because i just want to protect the friendship,not hurting their feelings!
• Malaysia
17 Oct 08
The important is we should know what type of friends before we lend them our money. for me, if he/she is a very close friend, i don't mind to let him/her borrow my money. maybe sometime i will faced same problem like him/her. we don't know..
@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
I was the one who "courted" my friends for my guy friend! I wrote the letters and stuff. ULK! For financial matters, I try my hardest to say no because there is a risk that they won't pay. All the more if they are my friends. Familiarity breeds contempt.