Would You Consider Signing A Pre-Nup?

@yuna15 (2707)
Philippines
October 19, 2008 3:14pm CST
A friend of mine said that even though she loves the person should still want them to sign a pre-nuptial agreement. We argued that it's like you don't trust the person if you do that but then she said if the person really loves her for who is then he would sign it without question. It probably depends on how any person would take it. So if you were the person who was asked to sign a pre-nup. Would you sign it? How would you feel? Would you have a lawyer setup a pre-nup and have your partner sign it? If so, how would you tell him/her?
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@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
25 Oct 08
I would in fact sign a pre-nup if my husband had asked me to. I think that if I am in love enough with my husband that it would not make a difference. I would not myself set up a pre-nup for my husband to sign. I think that if you can't trust the person you are about to marry than maybe you should reevaluate the relationship. And if by chance you split up then you have to split the assests...and oh well posessions are not that important to me.
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@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
25 Oct 08
So you mean you won't feel that you are not trusted enough by your husband? Just curious. Since you said that the relationship needs to be re-evaluated if you don't trust each other.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
25 Oct 08
Ya know it is a catch twenty two situation. I would sign one if he wanted me to but I would question if he trusts me enough. I mean I have never been in this situation and maybe he would have a good enough of a reason to ask for one. But it better not be because he does not trust me.
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
20 Oct 08
Yes, I would consider it. My husband asked me to, though it was more of a test to see whether or not I would do it. I guess I passed because I never had to sign one. When my husband asked me I didn't think it was because he didn't trust or love me. I just figured he wanted to protect what was rightfully his. However had he actually made me sign one I would have had him sign one too!
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@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
25 Oct 08
Having him sign a pre-nup too should be fair enough. Nice to hear that you took it lightly when he asked you to sign one. Thanks for the response!
• United States
19 Oct 08
I talked about it before I got married, but we're young and neither of us had anything coming into the marriage, so anything we have if we ever decide to split up would genuinely be half and half. I think a pre-nup is very important if you're bringing important things into the marriage with you like a retirement fund or a house, or a car, or some huge income or savings, etc. Otherwise, you could end up getting seriously screwed like my mom did.
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@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
I see it really has advantages then. Basically all your possessions will be taken care in case an "extreme circumstance" would happen. Good thinking.
@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
19 Oct 08
It does sound kind of harsh but if you had alot of money and things before you met him, would it seem fair to you to possibly have to give them half of all of those things if something should happen? It's just a way of protecting yourself from someone who could try to get possession of the things you had before your marriage, like money.
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@yuna15 (2707)
• Philippines
19 Oct 08
Yeah It does seem harsh. Her way of thinking is, in case they split up she would at least have a money of her own. She has an heir of a big company that's her family wants for the person she's going to marry to sign a pre-nup.
@shaggin (37733)
• United States
1 Mar 11
I would never have a problem if someone asked me to sign a pre-nup. I completely understand why people have pre-nups its not that you dont trust the person its just that if something happens down the road you dont want to lose out on all the things that were yours if the person decides he wants a share of what wasent his/hers to begin with.