Is this a bad or good side in me?

October 21, 2008 11:39am CST
I am not sure if this characteristics is negative or positive side in my life. If you buddies help me to find out or give me your valuable opinions, then I will remain ever grateful. I have a tendency to remain as a "good person" to everybody. I don't want to make anybody displeased with me! I want to please everybody even if it is at the cost of my sorrows and discomfort. Say, we two persons are sitting in a bench and the bench is not wide enough to accommodate the buttocks of two persons. If I can understand that the other person is feeling discomfort then perhaps I will stand up and leave the bench for him to sit alone, guessing the other person is thinking me a bad person! When I go to visit anybody's house, I feel very uncomfortable to enter inside his room without putting off my shoes and socks. Fearing that the house owner may be displeased if I enter inside the room with the shoes on and my socks may emit foul odor and the house owner may think me a dirty person! But I have noticed, when others come to my house, they don't even seem to be the least hesitant to enter my room with shoes on! They don't feel the least hesitant to climb on my bed with their dirty and smelly socks on! These two are just examples. In most of the cases, it is me who compromises. Is trying to be a "good man" to everybody a good or bad side in me? Please notify dear friends.
2 responses
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
22 Oct 08
I think this is your positive side of your character.Try to please everybody is a good manner.Everybody likes polite person.But at the same time misdoing should be protested.If any misdoing or injustice goes unprotested the related persson gets opportunity to continue his or her misdoings. It also make harms to society.My openion is, you shoud be polite and good mannered.At the same time you should earn the couurage to protst against injustice and oppression.
• United States
21 Oct 08
You may want to check into some onformation on co-dependancy. It is something I deal with every day of my life, and have for as long as I can remember. In most cases, your kind natured personality is a good thing. But if you become obsessive over pleasing others, and rarely take the time to take care of yourself, it can become controlling and detrimental to your health. Not to mention, this personality also makes you the target for the users out there, who are only your friends for what you can give them or do for them. Once your well runs dry they hit the road looking for the next poor sap willing to meet their every need.