Do You Think You Are a Better MOM Than Your Mother?

@eihdra (3116)
Philippines
October 21, 2008 1:53pm CST
Some of you might say that you are better than your mom, some would say otherwise.. But how are you different from your mom, in terms of raising kids? Do you also do what your mom has done to you? Because you think that she has raised you well?
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@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
21 Oct 08
My mm had all of us very close together. It was harder for her then it was for me because my children were 7 years apart. I think I had it somewhat easier. I think in some ways, yes, I was a better mother. I think that because, we knew more by then, we had more to work with.I did not have as bad of health problems as my mom. She has had slot of sickness.
• United States
21 Oct 08
yes... my mom found other things (men) to be more important than her children. lol I could respond to this question all day ... so I'll leave it at that - yes. :)
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@ms1323 (259)
• United States
21 Oct 08
I am definitely a better mom...but it doesn't really take much to be better than a mom who completely tuned her children out. My biggest memory of my mother is her lying on the coach watching soaps, then just before my father was due home she would start barking orders to us so the house would be orderly when he arrived. I digress....so, I am completely tuned in with my children; talk to them, play with them, cook with them...it can be tiring, but it is good for them and me.
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@ayessa (1586)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
I really can't compare myself to my mom since I was just starting to be a mom and I need a lot of things to learn being a mom. But i wish I could just be as good as her if not better than her. Actually, I'm trying to do some of the good things that my mom has done to us when she raised us and try to avoid those things that I think is not good for my kid. Though she may not be that perfect I can say htat she has raised us all well enough and she has done a good job being a mother.
@msedge (4012)
• United States
10 Feb 09
We never can tell whats on our mothers heart and mind.But i know my mom really love me so much and i know she did her best to support me.I had learn my mom's mistakes according to how she raised her kids and there were some ways that were not right and i learned from that.Being a mom right now, i am trying to be the best mon that i could and though i have my own way of raising my daughter but still i owe some from my mom.No offense for my her but i think i am a better mom than her.But she is the best one for me.
@alindahaw (1219)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
I could not really say as to whether or not I am better at raising kids as compared to my mother. Our circumstances were different and it would be unfair to compare the way we raise kids on the same grounds. However, I must say that since I turned out to be one of the good guys, my mom did a good job at raising me and I hope to pass on the same legacy to my own children.
• United States
4 Nov 08
Yes. I'm definitely more patient and more involved. I feel I'm doing a better job.
@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
23 Oct 08
I don't know. I think I am calmer. My dad was a major jerk. My mother had to do everything. Including working major over time for money to make ends meet. I have a wonderful husband. He is VERY active in our family and life. So my situation is different. I think it may be unfair to compare.I don't have the stresses to bare alone that she did. I'll say this. If I had to deal with the same things my mom did, I don't think I would do as good a job.
@magikrose (5424)
• United States
23 Oct 08
I will never consider myself better than my mom. When I need advice she is the first person I run to and she always has the best advice any one could ask for. I don have diffrent parenting ways than she does and so far they work for me but that is because my children are diffrent and need to be treated diffrently at times than I was. My children are not me there for my parenting will be diffrent.
• Philippines
23 Oct 08
I guess I'm a BETTER MOM compare to my mom... (you know that... lol) It's not that I don't love my mom but I actually didn't felt her presence in my life at all especially those times that I needed her most. She usually equate her love for her children in terms of money and material things although I understand that she needs to work in order to give all our needs but it seems she doesn't realize that her presence, especially the "special occasions or events" of my life is the most important thing she could ever give to her children. We all grew up not in her own hands, we grew up in the hands of our nanny. Sometimes I tried to approach her just to have a talk but she doesn't want to be disturbed. If she was at home, she was just sleeping all day. Whenever I tried to open our line of communication we hardly understand each other.Since then I promised to myself that I would be a better mom and I'll make sure that I'll give all my love,attention,support and time to my child.And now that I am already a mom, I know I have given the love,care ,time and attention to my son although there are times of misunderstanding between us which is just a normal mother-son relationship thing. Somehow, I know I didn't fail to be a better mom to my son. Am I a better mom? What do you think my friend?
@rainmark (4306)
22 Oct 08
About my mum, on my times and my second sister i can say that she really give's us 24/7 time in taking care of us. The rest of my sibs they got only little time with her because worked abroad and been away for long time. She's a good mum for me coz she did everything for us and educate us. She always teached us to be good and strong, she descipline us well. Now that i am a mother, i also do my best to give my kids a better future as what my mum did to us. But i would not leave my kids for a long time, that's why while they are young, i and my husband are start saving for their future, getting them a trust funds so i don't need to go abroad to work. Just stay beside there and look after them and help them whenever they need me. I can't say that i am better than my mum, coz my mum is the best for me. I can't compare her to everyone or to myself. She's uncomparable. Cheers
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
22 Oct 08
My mother is much different from me.She had the character I sometimes wish I had.But taking from her experience I chose a man I married who is eight years older than me while my mother is 10 years older than my father.I did not like their set up but I thank them for raising me a better person.I was her opposite in raising my kids.I tried my best to give the best for them especially in their education.Maybe my lack of education gave me the courage to do my best for my children.Over all I think she raised me well to be better mother.
@nittap (7)
• Indonesia
22 Oct 08
I think i am not better than my mom... My mom was active woman, with good career. She was raising me and my brother well. And we growing well. I think i can do better than she.
@kiwibee (240)
• New Zealand
22 Oct 08
My mum did a lot right, but she also did a lot wrong. I like to think I copied off the right bits, and corrected the wrong bits. That said, I know I will have made mistakes all my very own :-) When I was a kid, I recall occasions when I would think "That's not right... when I have kids I am not going to do that to them." And I followed through. Example: I was talked down to, like, my intelligence was underestimated. So I always talked to my own children as if they were a bit cleverer than I thought they might be, to give them room to grow. It worked well. My kids are all very clever. :-) I regard raising children as the most important job there is. My kids (3, with gaps of just over 2 yrs in between each) were my life for their first 20 yrs or so, and are still extremely important in my life. And they are fun people, great to be with!
@checapricorn (16066)
• United States
21 Oct 08
[i]Hello eihdra, I have no kids but if ever I will have, I guess I will not be better than my Mother! She is very patient and very caring and loving and I am quite strict as well as impatient sometimes! LOL! But, if ever I will have kids, I will be trying to be like my Mother, hopefully, I will have a good kids also! LOL! [/i]
• Canada
21 Oct 08
I am not a MOM, so it's impossible for me to say. I can't be better than someone else at something thet they have done, and I have not. Because of changing times, I can think of things that my mother did not do that I wish she did, or did do that I wish she didn't, but on the whole, she was a pretty dang good mother.