Trying to decide if now is a good time to have another baby!

United States
October 22, 2008 3:12pm CST
Hey everyone. I am 25 and I am married to my high school sweetheart. We have two amazing boys 3 & 4. We want another baby, however we dont know if now is a good time to try and have one or not. I have always heard if you wait until the right time you will never have another one. Any suggestions. We are very responsible and financially having another baby would not be a problem. Its just that with the ecomony right now, just dont know what to do. Part of me says wait the other part says just do it and deal with whatever happens when it happens. Is it selfish to think that way????
4 responses
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
22 Oct 08
Welcome to MYLOT my dear. My answer to you is not to even think of having another baby. Your babies are only 3& 4. Why in God's name do you think that you need another. Even if you are financially off at this moment don't you think that children need parents attention. When you have the brady bunch and does not have time to look after each properly what do you think these same children will be saying. Mama and Daddy build a bunch but was unable to spent time with us equally. Thank God that you were able to have 2 and leave the rest for others who want one.
• United States
23 Oct 08
First off....Whewww I kinda got offended when I read your message. I really dont even know where to begin!!! I give my kids plenty of attention my kids are my life, my world revolves around them and their happiness! Secondly...I praise God everyday for the opportunity of a lifetime he gave me to have my 2 kids...I just had surgery back at the beginning of Aug to correct a fertility issue that I was having so that someday he could give my husband and I another child. I do appreciate your response because I was looking for them to get others points and views about the subject. So thank you for responding and welcoming me to mylot. Jennifer
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
23 Oct 08
My dear why should you be offended of my opinion. Well this is a social network and you will get responses that you do not like don't be offended. I was not implying that you don't spend time with your children what I am simply saying is that you have two kids so it is best for you to just concentrate on these two. Remember every day things gets more expensive so the amount of money you have now maybe in a couple of years doesn't seems as much. My friend just concentrate on making your family healthy and happy and forget about another child for now. All the best.
@sunshine4 (8708)
• United States
23 Oct 08
I dont think you are being selfish at all. You are trying to think about what is going to be best for your family. I say if you want another child, there is never a perfect time to have another one, so why not have one now so your children will all be close in age. I had 3 boys that were each 3 yrs apart. Then 6 yrs later I had a little girl. Looking back, it would have been so much nicer for my daughter if she were closer in age to her brothers. Now the boys are all working and she is like an only child, being the only one home with me most of the time. do what is in your heart!
• United States
23 Oct 08
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! I appreciate your answer!!!! I am a very responsible person and I put my childrens needs and wants ahead my own and my husband does the same. We are in the best spot we could be in right now in our life so thats why we were just wanting to get an input. We believe when the time is right for us and our family that God will bless us with another baby and if it never happens again...well then that was God's will. We have submitted ourselves and our life to living out his will and placing everything in his hands. If it is meant to be then it will happen. Blessings, Jennifer
@rainmark (4306)
22 Oct 08
hello there, I would say that if you are financially not ready i would suggest not to have another baby, coz it cost alot and you have two kids. Just wait the right time, maybe next year. Atleast you can save up for a few months and get prepared. But the decission is still yours. Just think it twice before you get decided to have another baby now or next year. Happy posting.
• United States
23 Oct 08
Ok first off I didnt say I wasnt financially ready...I said we were financially stable and I know how much it cost to raise kids I have two....I helped my mom put my sister thru college...I realize how much money it takes so with that being said...The financial aspect of it, is not a problem.
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
25 Oct 08
if you and your husband feels that you are ready for another baby then by all means....have another beautiful or handsome baby. it would be nice if their age arent that far apart as they can share their toys to each other and they can play with each other as well. best wishes and please do tell us once you got good news that you're preggy again. take care