Do you feel guilty when you dine out without the kids?

Hi pehpot. When my kids were younger, we didn't go out much but when we did, it was usually for birthday or anniversary. If they were old enough to stay home by themselves, then we left them although I did feel guilty about leaving them. But if not, we took them with us. Although, we didn't go out very much when they were baby's. My husband was in college and we didn't have much money. Anyways, now that they are grown, we go out by ourselves. I don't really feel guilty but sometimes wish they could enjoy the meal with us.

Sometimes I take my wife out to dinner so we can have our alone time. I think it is important for a couple to have their time separate from the kids sometimes. You should not feel guilty for doing so. Just make sure that the kids are well taken care of in your absence. It is nice to treat your wife like a princess and let her know you appreciate her for being a woman and your spouse and not only the "mommy". But you should not feel guilty about taking some time out for yourselves away from the kids from time to time.

I do feel guilty as hell whenever I dine in posh restaurant with my business partners.I compensate it the same week making it to the same restaurant with my family.

No, I don't feel guilty to go and dine out with my husband without my kids. We have 4 children and we often have date night when we can afford it. My 17 year old watches the other ones, so we have a babysitter. I always make sure they have dinner either before we leave or I get them something and leave while they are eating. It is usually near their bedtime anyways when we do go out so it is ok. They are happy because they can watch their shows on television or play their video games or play on the computer and we are happy because we get alone time with one another. It is important to get that time with your spouse every now and then. Most of the time when we eat out though we take the kids along with us, but we do need our alone time too. Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!

haha.. There isn;t a need to be guilty ^_^ KIds will want their parents to have a good time too, just like them ^_^ ANd if kids are sensible enough, they will not hold it against their parents, instead, they will encourage ^_^ hehe PLus, now that your kids are still young, and u and your hubby still has the desire to go on dates, so why waste it?? Because it might be something it's even harder to do in the future when both of u have grown too old, too embarassed to go out on a date anymore ^_^ hehe I guess your kids will understand that ^_^

Yes I do, totally! I'm out in the streets eating good and the kids are at someone's house eating regular! I always bringm something back, though! Taripre$

[i]Hi pehpot, I have no kids but I heard this with my friends who have kids BUT there are really times when they will just go out with their hubby and bring take out food for kids but very rare! I am sure every loving and caring Parents will feel this way! [/i]

Not at all. My son is 6 yrs of age and if my hubby and I get any time to ourselves, I wouldn't feel guilty about it at all. I would make sure I bring a doggy bag for him though, maybe a yummy treat of some sorts.

My daughter is 21 months and I seldom leave home without her. I Would feel terribly guilty if I was eating at a restaurant without her. If I were to leave her in someone else's care, I'm afraid that she would not drink her milk and eat her food. She's such a fussy eater as it is. So I will bring her along to restaurants. Maybe when she is a lot older, my fear and insecurities will die off and I will be more confortable leaving her at home. At this moment, I guess I won't do that.

hi pehpot.. I do feel guilty and so does my husband. But, sometimes, we both need some quality time with each other and though we miss the kids, we think that it's one kind of breather also for us..It's nice when we get to go out just the two of us but that only happens maybe once or twice in a month..Mostly, when we go out, we bring the kids along because we both also love going out as a family...

as a mom, its just normal for us to feel that way, but not necessarily means that we are not good mothers if we dont bring along our children. as a wife, we need to go out with our hubbies alone so we could have our moments.

well, i also feel it too .. i just don't like leaving my kids behind cos they are my joy so , i always want to see them around me even when i dine out...

You must be kidding to be feel gulity to dine out without kids. I and my hubby often dine without kids. I stay with them almost 24hrs a day. On weekend, I just want a little peace without them screaming in my ear. Believe me, healthy mum mean healthy kids....that means mom feel inner peace. The kids will also sense the peace in you.

Sometimes because its like I dont have any care about my family. Sometimes when Im so happy I just forgot thing like that. But most of the time I wooried and beacame guilty. But because their are times that when I'm dining out I'm out without them so chances are they cant be with me. But I really make it to a point that we eat together. :)

If it is only once a month... then i would feel guilty at all because i think i deserve that alone time... but if is is like every other days... or once a week... then i would surely feel guilty going out without my daughter... so i would prefer to just take her with me... even if it means i have to carry her around... that is better than feeling lousy while eating in a nice restaurant...

Yes, if I was to, I would.. I know that I feel very guilty if I went to buy some fast food out of a diner, and I did not bring it back for them to have any.. I would feel kind of bad.. But, if we have food in the house that they can eat on, then I will not feel as guilty. I just try to look at as, mom treating herself for once in her life.. When I do this, I really don't feel as guilty.

when the kids were all in school except 1 my 4yrs, sometimes we would stop for something after grocery shopping or something but not a posh resturant. still id feel quilty enough to tell my little one not to say anything. she'd promise but go around wipeing her mouth and asking the older ones when they got home if anything was on her mouth and they'd guess the little minx

I think it is sweet that you feel guilty, I used too, I do not feel guilty now if we leave my daughter home (she is 17 but I do not want to hurt her feelings now)

Hi there pehpot I only manage to dine out without my kids maybe once every 3 months or so as I am a single mum of 3 so no I don't feel guilty as I rarely do it and it is a bit of me time with my friends on my own. They spend plenty of time with me so it is ok. I treat them to a take away once every three months too so I think we are even!!

Definitely yes,i feel so guilty about it.When i'm eating i use to think about my kids that i am eating while they are not.I don't know if this is the feeling of a one parent whenever they are out to dine without their kids.