Relationship, and ExRelationships
October 24, 2008 8:25am CST
Well I have a situation. Me and my boyfriend just broke up after 2 1/2 years. Because I moved 200 miles away, for a better job. And he was just suppose to wait until we get our lives straighten out. Because during the course of our relationship, we went into financial debt. And being a female, it is hard to get a good job with no college education. So I moved to where I knew I would be able to get a good job, so that we could both fix that part of our lives. Don't get me wrong, he just couldn't hold a job. And now he finally found one that I hope he sticks with. But my problem is, is that he broke up with after not even 3 months of me being away from him. His excuse was that because he was lonely, and didn't have anybody there. And we would always talk, but he always wanted to talk when I was we were both at work, and that is one reason why he would always get in trouble at work, would be because of being on the phone. So I would ask him not to talk to me when he was at work, and he still didn't listen, and I got upset at him for that. But now he broke up with me after 2 1/2 years, and that last week of our relationship he started hanging out with some friends (may I remind you he is 21, and he is haning out with his little sisters friends, who are in HS), and started to like a girl. And she liked him, and in my opinion she was there to talk to and I wasn't. So thats why I think he started to like her. And than he tells me, he has feelings for her that he didn't have for me. Blah Blah Blah, but we were previously engaged, but put that off since I moved. And now I have came to terms that he is with someone else, and I can't do anything to change that. I can only change how I feel, and get over it. And I'm trying to get over him. But he wants to be friends, and keep talking. That was okay for a few days. But it's just making me feel like there will be something there, its just a tease. And I need time to get over him. I sent him an email, and I was respectful, and mature about it..I'll copy it so you can see for yourself.. As much as this hurts, but you're right. We can't talk right now. I need time to get over you. And I can't do that talking to you. Yes I've accepted the fact you're with someone else. But that doesn't mean I'm over you. I need time. And when the time is right, and I feel that I won't become attached again, I will email you. In the mean time, please know that I do love, and care for you, and there will always be a place in my heart for you. I'm not getting rid of you in my life. I just need time. Please understand, and please don't be upset. Thank you for everything that we had, and thank you for showing me that I can be in love. I hope to speak to you as a whole different person, because I hope to speak to you as me. The real me. I still have the offer on the table, if you absolutely need me you can call, or email me. I'll do what I can. Please don't be upset. It's for the best we just don't talk or have any communication for awhile. Even to be friends, right now is just not the time. But later down the road, I promise I will be your friend. And now he is upset. But what should I do with his stuff, I mean we have stuff in a storage shed, which is both ours, and I have his blanket that means a lot to me, and a very special stuffed animal, my engagement ring, and jewelary, what should I do with all of that? I don't want to give it back to him, because I woulnd't want it to go to someone else.. And what should I do if he keeps calling me, and texting me? What should I say? Help please! Oh so confused.