are you a good listener?

i do listen dependng on d matter,problem or situation etc not always bt vry frequently

Sometimes when we give advice, there is this big ego in our hear that says "hey, how poor you are. You should do as what I say." Perhaps, the best to help our friend is to help us help them. "Help me, Help you." Sounds familiar right? Jerry maguire tagline. Now why do i say this, most of the time my friends ask me for advice and I just listen to them. until then, I will say, what do you think you can do with the situation. In that way, we are helping them making it than impose our wills to them. The tendency if we impose our will is that they will tend to ignore it. That is because while we feel very proud that we have given them our advice, but deep inside him is an ego who also wants to prove you that you are wrong. It is like race where both of you would like to make it to the top of the situation. listen without compromise and you will have chances of helping your friend.

Yeh ,maybe when your friend is in sadness or trouble ,the only one thing he or she need is just being listened .At that time ,any words from you seem to be useless.So just be a quiet listener .I think I am a good listener.

I am like a tree under which you will get shade and peace without a question of return. But at times I feel bad when people share their feelings even though I am not interested to listen, and worse I don't like to turn them away.