What if your boyfriend is married?

Philippines
October 27, 2008 5:54am CST
Most of my friends, even me, went through this kind of problem. What if your boyfriend or the one you love is committed to someone else? AND, he is willing to give up the other party for you.. What would you do? Go or No?
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@schulzie (4064)
• United States
28 Oct 08
This happened to a very good friend of mine. She was dating a married man and she ended up getting pregnant. When she got pregnant she told him and at the time his children with his wife were teenagers. He told my friend that he did not want to disrupt his children's lives and wanted to wait until they full grown and out of the house before he split from his wife. He kept telling my friend this and he helped to support his son financially. And he continued to see my friend. After his children with his wife were graduated from high school and out of the house my friend again asked him when he was going to leave his wife and marry her. At this point her son was about 7 years old. He told my friend that he could not leave his wife because he is Catholic and divorce is not permitted. But that he no longer loved his wife and wanted to continue seeing my friend. She was so much in love with him but she decided to end the relationship with him. This happened many years ago as her son is now in college himself. My friend has had many boyfriends since but they are all a bunch of jerks. I am sorry for her that she has not found happiness. But anyways, if he had left his wife and gone with my friend he would have just gone out and cheated on her too. I would never trust a man that had had an extra-marital affair. Once a cheater always a cheater. Look at famous people who have done this. It is a pattern for them. If I were you I would definitely not go with this married man. It will probably only bring heartache for you. [b] Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!![/b]
• United States
27 Oct 08
Ask yourself this first. How long do you think that man would have stuck around had you not given it up to him? Married/Committed men are in it for the booty and nothing more. That man will say anything to keep it going. You would be foolish to think he is going to give up someone else for you. You will still be alone.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
27 Oct 08
I totally agree. If a man is already married, I wouldn't get myself attached to him unless he was divorced. He would say ANYTHING to keep that side of booty. And you also need to ask yourself if he is willing to cheat on her with you, do you think he would honestly be faithful and loyal to you and you alone?
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
I wonder why women is still attracted to married man when there are million of single and able bachelor.Don't they ever think of the future consequences it will take them having relation with a married man.I really pity those woman who fall in love with a married man.If I will be in their situation I will pray for guidance.If he is willing to give up the other party what will you feel if that other party is someone close to you or your love one.As much as possible I would like you to refrain having a boyfriend who is already married.They are like fishes in the ocean there are plenty of them choose one that is unattached.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
This is an emotional minefield which could blow up in your face. Men who are married and have girlfriends are not really good husband material. If he does it to his wife, what's to stop him from doing it to you when you become his wife? "love"?, that's fictional. Cheers!!
• Japan
27 Oct 08
I used to date a guy that I didn't know he was married. The good thing about him, he admitted when I asked him if he is married. BUt I have to end the relationship simply because he's married. What made me decide that is asking myself "What if, I am his wife? Would I be okay with me to just give up on me simply because he has another woman in his life?" Of course, NO. I don't want to be treated that way. As the saying goes, what goes around comes around. Karma. Don't do to others as you don't want them to do unto you. And it is someone's family I'll be ruining if I stay in that kind of relationship just for selfish desires.
@tonniek02 (457)
• United States
27 Oct 08
First of all, if you found out he is committed to someone else you needed to get away from that right then. I don't beleive in realitionships with a married person. It is wrong and it affect more then just you and her. Sometime there are children involved and if you think the children will ever accept you after you were the one the split up there home, then you are mistaken. And if he will cheat on her, he will cheat on you. And you also have to look at the facts that you could never trust him and after all how can he ever respect or turst you. You were the other woman. So it would put the thought that you dated him being that he was married, whats to stop you from seeing someone else. Don't think you will be the only one. Put yourself in her shoes. How would it make you feel, if the man you gave your life to was seeing someone behind your back...taking that chance that he may bring home some dissease. Apparently you have never been in the wifes shoes. Or you would already now the answer to your question. There are to many singles out there to start a realationship with a married person.
• Philippines
27 Oct 08
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• China
27 Oct 08
Leave him as soon as possible. Don't get yourself in trouble, don't trouble the one you love, don't hurt another womon. There are so many men in this world, you can choose a better one at the same you give happiness to a couple.
@rubypatson (1842)
• India
27 Oct 08
I think its not right to have a relationship with a married man, he has a family and he is commited there, so if he is with you and also his wife he is definatly cheating
@subha12 (18453)
• India
27 Oct 08
it will be very sad i must say. in this case trust will be broken. its pain to see when trust is no more