My BIL made my husband loose $25K, would you say something?
By sedel1027
@sedel1027 (17846)
Cupertino, California
October 27, 2008 10:37pm CST
My brother-in-law is 18. Not long before he graduated high school in May he was caught red handed with marijuana. He pleaded out the charge since it was a first offense and the charge will be dropped soon.
My husband joined the military. Saturday he filled out some paperwork for his job which has a $25K bonus. Fast forward to today. We find out that because he answered yes to knowing that his brother was caught with the drugs (just knowledge of the event), my husband lost his bonus. He is still able to get the job and may still get a bonus, but it would be 1/5th of the original bonus. Granted, we wouldn't see the money for 3 years but I can think of quite a few things to do with $25K!
Would you say anything to my BIL? I am sure by now my MIL and my FIL have both told him something and maybe a good friend of theirs. Does he really need one more person preaching to him?
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
28 Oct 08
Excuse me, this might seem to be a dumb question, but how does knowing that a relative has been caught doing something have anything to do with your husband?? If it is because they are related, then most people if not all people should be punished the same way..I know some things on one side of my family that is worse than just being caught with pot, but if someone was to judge me on that, they are being stupid..
Of course this is a job, and if you guys really need it, then you probably shouldn't say anything.. I think for myself, as desperate as I am for a job, I would, because it isn't right, unless I am missing something..
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
28 Oct 08
Okay, I read what you said about security risks..That may be why and there really isn't anything you can do about it..
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
28 Oct 08
That is pretty much it. They see you as a risk in a high security job if your "close" family has done anything negative.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
28 Oct 08
That is unfortunate, because I can see it from both sides..That your husband had nothing to do with what your BIL did, but at the same time, since a relative did do something negative, it might affect your husbands judgment..
But he did get the job right? Just didn't get the bonus? At least you can be thankful for that, finding a job today is getting really hard..
@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
31 Oct 08
Oh I think it is unfair that your husband was punished for something that his brother did. I think your husband was an honest man and I don't think he should have been punished for that. It was not his fault. © ronaldinu 2008
