Does your partner/spouse ALWAYS forget birthdays anniversary's

New Zealand
October 29, 2008 1:30am CST
I have been married for 18 years and we have been together 25 years in all. My husband never remmembers me at xmas, birthdays,anniversary's. Am i unreasonable to feel pretty bad about this or is this just a man thing. Answers from men also might help here. I try very hard to make life pleasant for my husband he doesnt have to do anything much at home and everything is layed on for him. I work full time and have always been aware not to place the full financial burden on him and I also have two cool boys. I am careful with my appearance and do not let myself go. (look 30 am 43) but very tired trying to keep it all up. Would sometimes like to know i mean something or are special. (Guess thats a girl thing) What do you think am i selfesh?? i am very concious of trying to see things from the male point of view also. What do you think???
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@salonga (25991)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
You have all the reasons to feel that way! My goodness showing some kind of thoughtfulness does not stop one couples get married. I mean it is all the more that you should continue doing thoughtful deeds to each other. As a woman... I feel for you my dear. Of course it is not the material thing but it is the thought that counts. How could your hubby overlooked all the good things you've been doing as a mother and wife and could not even compensate you with simple acts of thoughtfulness. How about you? Are you gifting him on special occasions? Of course you can't expect him to be thoughtful to you if you yourself is not setting a good example. However, if you are a thoughtful giver, then it really is sad if your hubby do not know how to return the favor. I have been happily married for 23 years and my husband never in any single occasion of my birthday, anniversary, Christmas and Valentines Day did miss giving me gift. It could either be just a stem of yellow which he know I love so much. No matter how simple is the gift from my hubby... I always appreciate and give thanks for. It's the thought that matters most to me!
@salonga (25991)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
Sorry for the mistake please accept my correction to the second sentence: My goodness showing some kind of thoughtfulness does not stop once couples get married[u][/u]
@sunshine4 (8712)
• United States
29 Oct 08
I can see forgetting your birthday or anniversary, but Christmas!! He has to know it is Christmas! My husband never forgets my birthday or our anniversary. We don't get each other Christmas gifts~ we decided to do this once we had children. Instead, we save our money and take a family vacation every year. I would feel bad if my husband forgot my birthday and anniversary, but since yours does, why not give him reminders. This way he can't forget.
@jammyt (2824)
• Philippines
29 Oct 08
Generally, men really tend to phase out with dates no matter who you are. i've been with my husband for 12 years now. He remembers the month not the date. LOL! He used to make me feel bad but then in the end I found it just plain funny that I always have to remind him. I'm his personal secretary, which I don't really mind. Sometimes, if he forgets, he pays for it big time. LOL!