The need to justify our actions.

@alokn99 (5719)
India
October 30, 2008 3:13am CST
Why do people try to justify their actions, especially when they know they have done something wrong ? When something wrong happens is it not easier to accept the fault then to try justifying ,sometimes lying and giving silly reasons making the whole situation seem sort of ridiculous ? Are they trying to reduce the severity of the outcome ? How would you react in situations ?
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@mimpi1911 (25467)
• India
30 Oct 08
It’s but human nature to justify yourself. We need to justify our selves our stands on most occasions. How can we not justify ourselves when we are wrongly interpreted or wrongly grilled? Justifying ourselves come in naturally. Its but a part of struggle of existence and survival of the fittest. But here the point is justifying a wrongdoing or supporting some gross things that we have done. I do not see myself there. I would rather admit my mistake and may be sometimes go over board with it, taking the share of my team as well. But as you have rightly said, there are people who would not just stop justifying themselves and do not know where to stop. Admitting one’s mistakes make things so much easier for either party. Only today, when I landed up in office two staffs came with some crashed medicines and ampules. Those were supposedly crashed by my boss’s car. But why the hell they laid those on ground!! Those were quite expensive and not supposed to be carried like that. But the two kept on arguing and each time they came up with different versions. This was annoying and irritated my boss more. Had they admitted their mistakes things would have been so much easier! The severity of a wrongdoing cannot be lessened but we can make the situation like able when we admit it flat and straight. Being remorseful is a great way to work on our faults. Penitence liberates us to a greater platform in life and we become so much loved in the process. Thanks.
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@alokn99 (5719)
• India
30 Oct 08
The example you have given is most pertinent. I faced a similar situation at the office wherein instead of accepting a mistake and a wrong doing, the person came up with the most wierdest of justifications for his wrongdoing. Not only did it make the situation worse , it made us question whether he should be forgiven for his wrongdoing or not. It is our nature to justify and is most certainly acceptable wherein we are wrongly grilled. But some do not know when to stop. Thanks Mimpi for the wonderful response.
@mimpi1911 (25467)
• India
31 Oct 08
Drawing the line at the right time is very important in all spheres of life. The restraint, poise, the power to hold back and do not exaggerate and go overboard make so much sense. But we are fascinated by stuffs that have a quick, instant appeal. So sad!
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@alokn99 (5719)
• India
1 Nov 08
Exactly and that also makes us want to get out of our mistakes and wrongdoings in an instant manner or as soon as possible. So then starts the justifications and it goes and on and on.
@SaintAnne (5454)
• United States
31 Oct 08
For a lot of people, it takes time to realize that one is at fault and had made a mistake. By justifying one's actions, it makes it easier for them to accept that mistake or it allows them to even deny that they are at fault. "I had to do it because if I didn't then something wrong was going to happen to me or people around me." This statement allows them to feel good about themselves above feeling bad that they may have hurt someone in the process. I'm a very proud person. It takes me a while to come off my high horse and apologize. So yes, I do justify my actions most of the time.
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@SaintAnne (5454)
• United States
31 Oct 08
I've come across several people who still believe that they did the right thing for their reasons even though to me, their justifications were very foolish and do not even make sense. A lot of people have the Pinocchio syndrome too... one lie pops up, a thousand more is on the way.
@alokn99 (5719)
• India
31 Oct 08
We allhave our justifications and they vary from one situation to another. At the same time feeling good about oneself by justifying when one has done wrong i think is more of a temporary state of mind. Especially when the justification given stands out as being more foolish. Thanks
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
30 Oct 08
when we do something wrong it is actually harder to just accept it and apologize, we justify things thinking that we can get away with it. somebody once told me that it is better to just admit a mistake and say sorry than justify it because justifying a mistake could only lead to another mistake and another good topic to nail you down.
@alokn99 (5719)
• India
31 Oct 08
Exactly my point pehpot. Thanks for the response.
@kkanaka (888)
• Singapore
30 Oct 08
Justifying with silly and unreasonable reasons will only make matters worse, but people will try to defend themselves as they dont want to be at fault... but even if I am at the wrong I wont justify myself and will accept that I have done wrong...
@alokn99 (5719)
• India
30 Oct 08
hat is the way to be , but unfortunatley most look at trying to escape from the consequences of thier actions making things worse.
@celestos (814)
• United States
30 Oct 08
I think that is exactly the reason,reducing the consquences.
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@alokn99 (5719)
• India
30 Oct 08
It seems to be.Thanks for the response.