Are you being shy sometimes????
By victory999
@victory999 (758)
China
November 1, 2008 2:30am CST
Nearly everyone is shy in some ways.Shy people are overconcerned with their own apperance and actions.Worrisome thoughts often swirl in their minds:What kind of impression am I making?Do they like me?Do I sound stupid?If shyness is making you uncomfortable,it may be time for a few lessons in self-confidence.Shyness can be overcome with determined and patient efforts in building self-confidnece.You can build your confidence by following some suggestions.
1,make decision not to hold back in conversation.What you have to say is just as important as what other people say.And don't turn down party invitations just because of your shyness.
2,prepare yourself for being with others in groups.Make a list of the good qualities you have.Then make a list of ideas,experiences and skills you would like to share with other people.Think about what you would like to say in advance,then say it.
Just making the effort to control shyness can have many rewards.But perhaps the best reason to fight shyness is to give other people a chance to know more about you.
13 responses
@iamfine (740)
• China
2 Nov 08
Hi, victory, thank you for your advise about overcoming shy.
I am a quite girl, but I don't think I am over concerned with my own appearance. I don't wear cosmetic, and sometimes I even don't care how other people think of me, especially those who I don't care about. But even when talking with those people I don't care about or I don't like, I would feel shy. I think that's because I don't know how to communicate with them. We talk, but the content of our conversation is just like a blank sheet of paper.
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
1 Nov 08
Friends and relatives find me the life of the party. But there are times that I feel so shy facing other people especially at work (I am one of the newest staff member). I just dont know sometimes what to do and say.
I guess your advice is true. They really need to know me more . So I might reach out to them and hang out with them I guess.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
Hi There. Yes, I get shy sometimes especially when I get nervous towards people that I really don't know... Or if I am about to lose my self confidence momentarily but thank goodness I can regain it... I just always think that nothing will happen if I stay shy.. I need to be visible to people to let them know what I want in my life.. to achieve my goals... Happy Mylotting! Cheers!
@nankum (48)
• Sri Lanka
1 Nov 08
You are correct .I also once suffer from extreme shy.But Not now.The age was when I was in early teen.I felt shy when people looked at me.I thought that they are looking at me because I have not perfectly dressed up,or I haven't combed my hair.So i used to comb my hair with may fingers and always looked at my dress.I was very shy to tell my opinion in a group discussions even with my classmates.I thougt they will laugh at me and my opinion will be foolish daydreams.I always thought that every body is looking at me and so i was shy to look at there faces.
But gradually i realized that it is not true and people have many orther works to be done rather than looking at me.
I started to build my confidence.why I should shy?If i am not perfectly dressed or uncombed or if my idea is foolish orther people have done yet is only looking at me or laughing at me.They cant harm me.Now I am not shy about any thing.I mean I have no any social fobia.But I am still shy about some of very my sensitive secrets.
@annierose (19491)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
I think being shy is just a matter of lacking of self confidence within one self. I read from an article that psychologist view shy people as person with super high ego within themselves because they tend to be quiet or not to mingle with other people because they are afraid to be laugh at or afraid to commit mistakes.
In addition, being shy can also be the result of unwanted experiences at the past. For example, a student who had been humiliated in a class because of his wrong answer during class recitation may develop a shyness within because of what happened.
In order to cope up shyness is to build the confidence again within oneself. Learn how to express your feelings or your thoughts with others. Mingle with people. Smile and greet them. If they didn't smile back it is their lose not yours. Think that everybody commit mistakes also. Nobody is perfect. If you commit mistakes, it is ok as long as you learn from it.
@ediblecottoncandie (109)
• United States
1 Nov 08
I am naturally an introvert and I think I always have been since I was a kid. I sometimes try to be more extroverted and open, but most times I don't really care and just keep to myself. The way I dress is colorful and open, but my actions are shy. I think I just wait for people to come and approach me, and it takes a while for me to warm up to people -- unless I feel some type of connection. Does that make sense? I base a lot of friendships off of connections and nonverbal communication. If I don't feel like it will work out, I just don't bother with the person.
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
2 Nov 08
I would not say I am shy, but I am not the person who needs to bee seen and heard al the times. There are so many others who have the need of that. I however do say something if I have something I want people to hear. A specially opinions on different topics that are up and running. I like to be in the back, but do say things if I have something to say. I just do not talk if I do not have to, and it is not becouse of overcncerned with my apperance, I just feel I do not have to say or show my self if not needed.
@sajidnsr (43)
• Pakistan
2 Nov 08
Being shy is natural. There are people of both extremes and in between also, that is, too much shy and the one very much bold. The best person is the one who knows where to behave the way it is required. It is a fact that shyness is a problem and always puts you in very riduclus position. But it is also a fact that you can overcome or you can very well control your shyness if you try. The foremost thing is being self-confident and showing positive behavior. And these things are developed as you had mentioned by focusing on your positive qualities and being social.
@hotsummer (13835)
• Philippines
1 Nov 08
i am quite shy just because there is nothing much in me that people will like much. that is why i know that people will not be interested in me that much. that made me shy. but in case i have more good features physically i will not be a shy person cause i will not be afraid to be ridiculed and rejected.
sometimes i really feel confident but when people does not respond well to my actions and they don't reciprocate the same interest that i show that i lose my boldness and feel ashamed for active like a attractive person.
@bryanski (497)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
I am basically a shy person. I think I got it from my childhood days. I have no reason to be shy now but it is already within me. I am shy to go near a group of people who are acquianted with each other. I am shy to ask something to a person of authority. But sometimes I am not shy. When I'm with my friends, I am not. But alone, I am. 
@antioxidant (438)
• Australia
2 Nov 08
I'm very shy and often times i have very little to say. I don't know how to curb shyness and it makes interactions with people difficult. That first suggestion is exactly what i need to do and think so i'm gonna try it, but a habit is hard to break so i'm not expecting to be too successful in it heh.
