"Your Best Friend, Your Best Enemy"

Canada
November 3, 2008 1:31am CST
So have you ever had an experience, to have a friend, to get closer to each other and you become bestfriends and even more than that and suddenly you'll be both enemies. I am sure many of here have experienced that. I too experienced that and it took me for sometime to cope from it. I get too hurt and feel so bad to the one I thought my bestfriend. She seem to be a lifetime bestfriend for me, and I build so much faith for her that I began to be blind that all we had was false and trick. It took me many experience with her before I open my eyes to the truth. I really wanted her to be my bestfriend and I did all the things I can do for our friendship. But she just used me, I sometimes make her assignment for school, we eat together on our lunch, go where she wants to hang out. I help her so her crush will court her because her crush is also my close friend. I share even the personal things and gifts I got from my other friend that I met in chat and when we met I chose her to come with me to make her enjoy. She do some good things too to me, but there was a hidden agenda from that and I didn't realized it at first. Sometimes when I can't have a ride home, she offer's me a ride and she will pay it, of course her crush was there to hear it. Also on soe of our projects that I can't afford to do she offer's me and I really thought she wants to help me. But then after sometime she keeps doing that, she asked me to repay it as she needs money. I feel sad beause I didn't ask her to offer me that and that she was the one who offer for help and then asked me to repay. I just understand her need and try to repay it and continue doing things for her. Until one time her and her bf had an argument. I tried to help just like before but I feel so much hurt when she said not to join and bother them, because I don't have the rights of them and to join on their problem. I was only wanting to give advice, she thought too her bf had a crush on me instead of her but I kept telling her that its not true but seems she is not paying attention to the thngs I am doing for her. From that it made me realized things and become mad at her, we exchange words and hurtful words and become enemy and I never talked to her or even looked at her again. Now everytime I see her I try to be nice again but I just remember the things she did to me and it is making me not to trust or like her again anymore. For now too on some other friends, from that experience I find it hard to believe sometimes that there is what we call. TRUE FRIEND aside from our family but still I am hoping someday, I will find someone who will change that belief in me. I hope to meet someone I call my True Friend
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6 responses
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
3 Nov 08
i agree with you on this as well... in fact, i had experienced this myself with my best friend in high school and college... but i learnt from experience and i am more careful now in choosing my true friend... i am sorry to hear that you also have problem with your best friend... hopefully you can resolve things with her soon by having a chat with her... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
• Canada
4 Nov 08
Yeah, I learn from that, and I still make my self positive about friends, but that was not the only time I loose friends, I thought from that experience I can make a difference in me or to my new friend, but I met two other friends we become real good friends more than what I had to my old friend. Too bad it end up too, because she change. When she had her degree, she turned out to feel superior, and not just to me but to her mom. I was feeling sad for her to think like that, and it was hurtful too to let go of our friendship but I am really thinking it will no longer be good for me to go with her and become like something not a friend anymore but like a servant of her and sometimes she treats her mom like that too, and you can't advice her because in how she thinks right now just because she's a teacher then she has a good stands for everything. Now I realized maybe friends is something like passing by me now, they come and they go. I believe that when God Closes one Door he always Opens another.
• India
3 Nov 08
hi jeszieeltrevor.Hope you will meet a good friend whom you can really trust and share all those things which you really want to. And if someone hurts then dont think that the whole world is like her.Afterall some bad experiences is also good as we learn much from it.And may be this was a lesson for you to learn to whom you should trust. And dont feel bad and take it in a positive way and try to forget her . If you still feel bad only remember the good moments you had with her and forget remaining as a bad dream. Hope you will soon get a good friend whom you can really call as a best friend. If you wish you can add me as a friend and i think i would really enjoy your company. My best wishes are with you . Have a nice time. Happy mylotting.
• Canada
5 Nov 08
hello guys I am flattered by all the comments you send to me. It is like telling me, somehow now I am finding new friends here and that is you guys... Thanks very much for all the comments you send, It is really overwhelming and I am so happy... Thank you so much
@subha12 (18441)
• India
3 Nov 08
you are not alone. i was also let down big time by my so called best friend. that guy came as friend in my workplace. we were really good friend initially. he had a Gf. He told me about her. But after some time his attitude changed toward me. one day he announced that he is breaking up with his GF due to some caste agenda.I helped both of them so that they can continue. He used to ask for money, food etc from me. I also helped him. But later it came to my notice that he is taking just advantages of my friedship. he is cheat. we are no more in contact
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
Well that is sad my dear! It hurts to have a best friend turned into enemy but don't despair she is not worth your friendship. I'm sure sooner or later, you will find another one who will really answer your need for a true friend. I had one experience with a person who I considered one of my bestriends for sometime. Oh she had as sweet tongue and was seemingly very thoughful and amiable. I thought she deserved to be one of my real friends. We spent so many good times together... her family and mine. However, one event led me to discover that she is the opposite of what I first thought of her. She was all the while just putting up a front. I caught her to be a big liar, a selfish creature, so proud is mentally unstable at times. Oh, I never cared about the good times we had... I immediately cut off the friendship before she make further harm on my person. Good for me... I am now free of that person who is like a virus in a computer. Ha!ha!ha!
• Indonesia
3 Nov 08
hi dude, i'm sorry to hear that.. but i think u're lucky because you can realized what kind of human she is. come on guy..there are still many people out there..just find them..maybe someday you will have a really BESTFRIEND.I hope so...
@vaninsua (10)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I know the feeling. unfortunatly, your best friend is the one you have to be careful about. They know you better than any-1 else....and that can be a negative for you (especially when you become enemies). My so called best friend tried to steel my boyfriend, and she used every nasty trick in the book. because of this we haven't spoken in years...especially because my boyfriend then is my husband now. I have tried to talk to her, but she obviously still wants nothing to do w/ me. I just hope every-1 can find that one trustworthy friend!