military

I know it scares you a lot knowing your son will going the military but if it what he really wants then you should let your son do it. don't hinder him in pursuing his dream. it will actually make him a better person...responsible too. have faith in your son. My husband worked in the military and had been in Iraq...it made him a better person and appreciate everything than he used to.

No it is not selfish, a few months ago my eldest boy came home and said that he wanted to go in the army. It was a horrible feeling and all of us were not happy with it, of course we could not stop him if that is what he wanted but luckily he decided to apply for the RAF instead and although it is still the forces it is the part of the forces that is not too bad he has just been accepted and will be going in next year. I am still worried about him but not as much as if he had been going into the army and he is not just going in to be a fighter he is going to be training for a career.

deedeehall, I think whatever you are doing is not literally selfish, I mean who wouldn't want the best for their children. You just seem to be a little skeptical and doubt the military. However, as much as you may want your son to consider something else, I do not suppose you could do much once his mind is set. Just be positive about it that he is not doing something that may be detrimental or becoming another delinquent. Besides, it is honorable to be able to serve one's country and pick up new skills as well. I suppose you will just have to remain supportive of his decision for now and I am sure he and everything will work just fine. Have a nice day.

Its not wrong to discuss issues like this with your child. But if your child is educated and old enough to be making this decision make sure you are open and willing to listen. My mom tried to talk me out of it. She even drove me down to the recruiting center and talked to the recruiter with me. She wanted me to go to college and we didn't have the money. The recruiter told her there are good jobs in the military and even showed her a list of specialty jobs the military had to offer. It was great because the jobs she would prefer me to do they had in the military and now that I am a civilian the job I did when I was in trained me to do the same job as a carrier when I got out. I even entered into the field at a higher rate of pay than 7 other people that went to college because I was already trained. remember its people like your son wanting to server our country that has made this country what it is today. And by the way when they get done with him if he takes it to heart he will be a better person and more mentally qualified to deal with the lessons of life that go unanswered today.