if you were a mother,would you take your child with you or not?

China
November 10, 2008 12:49am CST
LiLY,a friend of mine,she has a son. because her and her husbands'job,they have to another province,which is far away their hometown.The qustion is that their son is only two years old,they do not know whether they take their son or not.if they take their son,who will look after him? if they do not ,his grandmaother can look after him.but they worry about their son's education.if you were a mother,what would you do????
5 responses
@nishdan01 (3055)
• Singapore
10 Nov 08
I too have a 2 year old son and I would prefer him to always grow with me. Sending with grandmother is only a secondary option. Only parents can provide the best things and understand them better. There is so much generation gap when we look into current scenario and only a mother of father can give the best education and think best in the child's interest.
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• China
10 Nov 08
thank all of you very much,i will tell my friend .
• United States
10 Nov 08
If they are moving there due to work I would take my child with me. Otherwise the boy grandmother will be raising the boy on her own. And I am speaking as a mother of a two year old. I could not leave my daughter like that with her grandmother. Her grandmother watches her while I am at work, however I work close to home. If they are worreid about their child's education then they need to be able to be there in order to ensure their son gets the type of education they need.
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@marlsv3 (37)
• United States
10 Nov 08
Without a doubt the child belongs with his parents if they are allowed to take him along. A mother should never leave her children no matter what age. A child needs a constant in their life. All babies have an innate sense and know if they are "abandoned" in a sense. Bonding the first years of a child's life is so important for them. If not from both parents, at least one of them. Please advise your friend to seriously consider taking the child with her. There are always options of "homeschooling" or "nanny" or something to get that child a good education. Most children respond to learning when they are confident and comfortable. These are what those parents will provide! HOpe this opinion helps.
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• United States
18 Nov 08
If I couldn't take my child with me... for instance if I thought he wouldn't be safe there, or that he wouldn't get a good education... then I just wouldn't go. Find some other way. It doesn't make sense to move away and let the child be raised by his grandmother, and as he gets older wonder, "Why didn't my parents bring me with them?"
@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
12 Nov 08
hmm I just think about when I go to school and my mom would call me every 3 hours just to know if i am allright. I am her only child so i am used to this. i think she should bring her child along with her. Just to have a peace in mind. If she wouldn't bring her child, she might feel worried constantly. Wether it is temporary or it takes a long time for them to work, I believe the children shoudl follow the parents. Within all respect, I think grandparents can give a good education as well but just to feel less worried you know. goodluck to your friend.