Yesterday I went with my sister to take my Granny's ashes to the cemetery.
November 11, 2008 7:09am CST
As most of my friends know my Granny died September 13 and my sister did not have the time to come to CA for a funeral until now. Granny is cremated and we took her ashes to the cemetery yesterday. Boy what a hard time it was to say good bye to our beloved Granny. I had and have so much stuff to do to get ready for the Memorial service here in my home but did not do anything yesterday because I would not let my sister go the cemetery by herself. My twin would not go with her. My older sister and I took the 1.5 hour trip to the Military cemetery so Granny's ashes can be buried with her husband.My older sister and I cried on and off all the way there. We talked about the good times we had with Granny. We had to decided what we wanted written on the grave marker so we decided to go see Granddad's grave site and walk around to see what other people said about their loved ones. While walking around the grave markers we saw a lot of says like "loved and not forgotten, always in our hearts, mother, sister, grandmother and great grandmother", but non spoke to us until I was one that said. TOGETHER FOREVER. I said look sister at what this one says and started crying and could not stop. You see Granny loved her third husband so much and missed him so much when he died. We felt that was the one that needed to be written on her grave marker. I wrote it on the tablet we had. You see we where writing all the sayings down so we could decided what we wanted. When we found TOGETHER FOREVER I wrote it on a new piece of paper. We then said goodbye to Granddad and went to the office to turn in Granny's ashes. The lady that was working there was good to us. She had all the papers we needed and we surrendered the ashes and said Goodbye to our Granny. When the lady asked us what we wanted on the grave marker neighter my sister nor I could speak the words so I handed the lady the tablet. I am glad we wrote it down, I wrote it down so we would not forget it. I did not know we would get so chocked up. The Veterans cemetery is located in the foot hills of Gustine CA. when you drive up to where the flag pole is you can see for miles. You can see the San Joaquin fore bay. I wish we had brought a camera. I told my sister I will be going back to see the grave site and taking my camera and sending her photos. It is a natural cemetery, they do mow the lawns but they do not weed nor do they keep the wild animals out. We did see a jack rabbit and a tarantula. I have have not seen a while tarantula in yeas. It was cool to see him/her. Today is the memorial service we are having here at my home. It will be hard but we will get through it.
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12 Nov 08
I am pretty sure you are able to get through it with grace and peace... since you know that your beloved Granny is in a place that is so much better than where we are right now... this is the final stage... so it is time to move on afterwards... it will be difficult... but i think that is what your Granny would have wanted... To live on with your life... with happiness and contentment... and to remember her always with a smile...
• United States
13 Nov 08
Thanks for your kind words. I know I will get through this. I am so glad I have such great friends here at mylot. I did have a great time at the memorial yesterday. I will start a discussion regarding all the happenings when I have time. Thanks again.
• United Kingdom
11 Nov 08
I know how hard this has been for you as I know how you love your Granny, but think of it this way now she is back with the Man that she loves so much and she is still and always be with you I hope that you are all doing ok now and you know that my Thoughts where with you all the time Love you sweet Friend
• United States
13 Nov 08
I am glad the memorial is over. I am glad she will be buried and with her ashes will be in the ground. My older sister have helped each other through this. I am glad I could help her. I wish my twin would have come with us. She is getting weirder and weirder by the day. She did not help with making the food nor anything. I will be writing a discussion about her one of these days. Thank for your kind words.