closeness with family members

@efarmer (184)
November 12, 2008 12:28pm CST
I live with my husband's family. My brother in law and his wife and kid and my husband and I live together. there are no problems as such. but How close do you think family members should be? How often should they interfere with the matters of our family? Would it be better to live separately and have a nice long distance relationship or be close and cause problems to take root? help me out on this one
4 responses
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
15 Nov 08
In my home country, everyone is really close. You can live with your parents even if you're already married and have kids. As for me, I would want to live separately so nobody will interfere with our family problems. You can;t help it....it does happen.
@efarmer (184)
17 Nov 08
that is very rightly said, you cant help it...it does happen. thanks anyway
@hellcowboy (7383)
• United States
13 Nov 08
That is cool that you live with your husbands family,which includes your brother in law,his wife,and kid,and I am glad that there are no problems which means all of ya'll must be getting along which is a very good thing if you ask me,I think family members should be really close because that is part of being family,you should be able to talk to them,and ask them for help when you need it,I would not call it interfering with your family,but they should be involved with your family because that is a good thing,and it might be better to live seperately and keep problems from starting because you would be distant,but distance is not always the best thing because that can also cause problems since you are not that close,my fiance currently lives with me at my parents house,and she has no problem living here,we all get along like one big happy family,and my parents do interfere from time to time but they just want what is best for us,and they are trying to help us better our lives,just like right now we are planning our wedding,and saving up money for our wedding which is set for September of next year,and my mother is helping us plan our wedding,since she has had two weddings and she knows more about what it takes and she has also bought stuff for our wedding since me and my fiance do not have a lot of money since we can not find a job and we are depending on the money we make online,and I am sure she will help us get other stuff for the wedding if we do not have the money for it.
@efarmer (184)
14 Nov 08
so life is indeed going great for you. good for you. and congratulations and all the best for your future.
• United States
12 Nov 08
I am a firm believer that two families can NOT live together. Wether they be related or not. I love my family with all my heart, my husband, my son, and I go to see my mom and dad three or four times a week, but in NO way can we live with them. I'm to hard headed like my dad and my mom likes her privacy.
@efarmer (184)
17 Nov 08
I am starting to believe that too. although initially I thought I could make it work but it seems it doesnt only depend on me to work, everybody is involved
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
13 Nov 08
i think you should really have your own place.this would relly be hard to live with family while being married i dont even know how it would work.