When is jealousy above it's limits?
By sfapjptp
@sfapjptp (64)
Philippines
November 13, 2008 11:13am CST
The common lover's quarrel source.
Respond when do you know jealousy coming from your partner is less or is too much.
They say it's one of the things that makes love is exciting. Some say it's actually a curse. Which is actually right for you?
3 responses
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
13 Nov 08
Any time a partner really starts to control what you do or who you see because of jealousy it's too much. A little jealousy is fine, it's cute when your man gets his back up a little because another guy flirts with you or checks you out. But if he were to actually get mad at YOU for it, or actually want to hurt the other guy, then you have a problem.
@sfapjptp (64)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
Oh, so if I base my current jealousy "meter" to yours, I can say that I am close to having too much from my partner. She doesn't actually get mad at me when she knows im with a friend who happens to be a girl or any similar acquaintances. But she gives me this look that makes me feel that im cheating her. So this makes me mad.
Im with a friend--She gets jealous--She gives a face--Im getting mad
What do you think?
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
14 Nov 08
I don't know if a face really counts as TOO much, I'm pretty sure that I give my fiance all sorts of faces! She may just need a little extra reassurance - I know I do now and then. But if it's to the point where you can't even talk to another girl then you definitely need to have a serious talk with her about it. But I don't think getting a face is enough to write it off just yet.
And thanks for BR!
@Shar1979 (2722)
• United States
13 Nov 08
Jealousy is common to couples. It shows how much you love your partner that you don't want to be separated. But once your partner goes way beyond the limit like being doubtful all the time or being too possessive then it's a red alarm. Better talk to your partner and settle the problem immediately.
@sfapjptp (64)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
Two fruits of negative jealousy you just brought up:
1. Doubt
2. Possessiveness
Doubt always tells our partner something like "I don't trust you" statements.
Possessiveness gives your partner a feeling of losing freedom.
You're right, diplomacy not only works for running a nation but also for a relationship, but what if your partner doesn't want to talk about it?
