What if you find out that your bestfriend is in love with you?

love - my love is mahal ko in tagalog term....
@myanime (434)
November 13, 2008 7:37pm CST
What will you do? How will you react?
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@Rachelce (19)
• Australia
14 Nov 08
boy that would feel weird. I spose you'd have to acces what you feel for them. Then if you dont have any feelings for them watsoever then tell them that and say there's no way that you guys could be together but that you still wanna be best friends. But if you have feelings for them then go for it.
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@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
Yeah,... as they say,... be true,... thanks for responding
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@carinio98 (2935)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
i dont think we will work out with that. and you know... your 2 are best friend meaning you 2 are bond together by life to be friends and not as lovers. and i dont think my best friend will accept a play boy like me thats why she wants only to be my best friend.
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
a playboy? really? hehe When did you realise that you are a playboy? hehe,... Thanks for responding,..
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@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
*realize
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@carinio98 (2935)
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
[b]uuuuuummmmmmmmmmm "matagal na"....... i was like girls but if i love someone i dont find anyone to be with me yahh know...[/b]
• Germany
14 Nov 08
This happened to me before, I liked him too, but i didnt have enough confidence on him, so i rejected him in a good manner. We are still best friends, and now im in love with my husband. :-)
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
Atleast you we're still bestfriends.... Thanks for responding and goodluck on your relationship.. Happy posting
• India
14 Nov 08
Hey this is what happened with me and my girlfriend. I found out that she was in love with me but i wasn't sure. We both are the best of friends and we used to share everything with each other. Once(before our relationship got its name..) when we were walking hand in hand, a mutual friend of ours saw us and asked whether we are in a relationship or what,both of us said no as we usually did when anyone asked us. Then for two whole days(Its a very long time for me when it comes to her)she dint talk with me. Whenever i asked d reason she said she dint wanna tell. So after two days one rainy evening she asked me "Why did u said like what u said that day ?" Now i dint know wat she was talkin bout (how stupid of me...) So i asked what. So after a bit of cat n mouse game she asked me "Why did u say that there was nothing between us that day ???" And lo "I FOUND OUT THAT MY BEST FRIEND WAS IN LOVE WITH ME." Without losing a moment I said that i loved her very much and thus started a very beautiful relationship..... Thanks a lot myanime for asking this question............ Take care buddy,lol...
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
ahhhhhwww.... How sweeetttt..... I love your love story,... Goodluck on your relationship!!!! Thanks for sharing!! Happy posting..
@subha12 (18453)
• India
14 Nov 08
first of all the real love must start from friendship. but i will be surprised if my best friend is in love. if i also have the same feelings, i will accept. otherwiuse i will say i am just friends
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
Thanks for responding,...
• Malaysia
14 Nov 08
bestfriend is bestfriend, their should know the limits, if he/she fall in love with me, i'll made it very clear that i dont like he/she that way..
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
Thanks for responding
• Canada
14 Nov 08
This had happen to me too, I had a best friend and it was so nice to be his friend at my high school. I just feel he is my bro and nothing more of that but was shocked he is having secret feelings and when he confess it I didn't know what to say but almost laugh. Well that time I am having a bf already and he knew I love my bf as I confess to him always but to think I did that and knowing he is inlove makes me feel a bit guilt that I hurt him everytime we talk about my bf, but he insist his feelings and that made me decide to finished the friendship we had. I really don't love him if I do then it is like maybe a friendship love and nothing more.
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
Thanks for responding
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
14 Nov 08
My friend told me once that he's inlove with me. I am not inlove with him so I told him frankly but in a nice manner that I only want him to be my friend. He did accept it. It's better to be honest that give false hopes just because you dont want him to get hurt.
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
yUp,... I think your right,... He will accept it if he truly loves you,..
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@kunizzul (1067)
• Malaysia
14 Nov 08
If I also fall in love with her or I still did not have one, so I think I will accept her love. =)
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
Wow,... hehe thanks for responding...
• United States
14 Nov 08
Well my best friend is a woman, so I would be little freaked!
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
hehe yeah I think it will make you crazy
@diillu (5128)
14 Nov 08
Well, i think it's a good thing if I feel the same as well. But if I have nothing like that towars him then I think I wouldn't start the affair just for the sake of keeping the friendship. Cause a lovers can be bestfriends but if there's nothing like that then bestfriends can hardly turn into lovers. So, if you have nothing towards him then it is better to clear him all the things rather than keeping him away from him.
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
Ok... I get it,... Just tell him we are bestfriends forever.,... hahaha
• China
14 Nov 08
if i love him too,i will tell him immediately .but if no,i say no to him.becase he is your bestfriend,you should tell the ture to him
@myanime (434)
14 Nov 08
Yup! You're right,... Bestfriend must know the truth but what if he will get hurt? Can you allow yourself to hurt your bestfriend?
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
19 Nov 08
it's another way around, I am inlove with my bestfriend, but I was not so sure if he was in love with me, so one day I asked him a fatal question, I should say "fatal"because it might be the "killing moment" of our friendship, he might be offended or worst feel betrayed,nevertheless I took a chance and ready to accept any consequences. I asked him through text. Then the painful truth came out that his treatment towards me is nothing but just close friends. Since I already invested too much emotion with him and cared for him so much, his words were pricking on my skin like needles that I started to cry. So now, I started avoiding him, to take away any feelings for him. He still remains a good friend but not the same as before. I need enough time to heal the wounds deep inside and after maybe, if the wound is completely heal and my emotions are subsided and totally forget him, may be I can resume friendship with him, but not now, I still need to get back from my old self.
@ninaluv (338)
• Nigeria
15 Nov 08
if i love him too, we can try and see what we can do about it. but if i'm inlove with someone else, then i'll let him know it cant work between us. apart from being into a relationship i dont see anything wrong witt that.
@SexxyT (6)
• Saint Kitts And Nevis
15 Nov 08
I honestly don't no what my reaction will be but I guess it can work for he or she is the person you tark to the most or even there to help you when you need a hand unless ur best friend you look upon as a brother or sister then I'll say that would be awkward.
• Philippines
14 Nov 08
There won't be a problem if I love my bestfriend too and I want us to be lovers as well, hihihi! But well, it's a "situation" if I love someone else and I wanted him to be just a friend, nothing more than that. I had this experience way back in college. One of my closest guy friends told me he loved me and that he wanted us to be more than friends. It broke my heart coz' he's really a sweet and nice guy and I don't want to break his heart. But unfortunately I have to tell him the truth. So I explained to him as gently as I can that I love someone else and that it would be unfair for him for us to go on a one-sided relationship. I also "begged" him not to change anything on out friendship -- not to act awkward or embarrassed or indifferent towards me just because of that incident. I'm just glad my friend is an open-minded person and as I said really nice. We're still friends.
• India
14 Nov 08
My reaction will be nearly yes,But not truley yes. Since i know perfectly about her i will say yes.But if i am any one not knoing to her i will not say yes. I will say i don't think so.I want time.
@messageme (2821)
• United States
14 Nov 08
I actually had a friend that felt that way about me. I simply told him I don't see him that way. I enjoy hanging out with him and all the fun things we do, but not to the extent of dating because I would eventually break his heart and then we wouldn't be friends no more and didn't want that to happen. Needless to say we have not been friends since. And it has been a few years and he still don't like me. Even his wife he has now hates me because of it. I personally think she was just jealous that he liked me so much and she was pretty much just a fall back. I don't let it hurt me though. I just look at the positive side of it. If he would act like that about it ( and very immature was he) I made a good choice of never going out with him. Good luck
• United States
14 Nov 08
I'd be real concerned since my best friend is my twin sister.
• United States
14 Nov 08
I would like that.