Can some things never be forgiven?
By Zezloler
@Zezloler (497)
United Arab Emirates
November 14, 2008 8:52am CST
It's common that someone tells us to "be the bigger person" and forgive others for their faults, even though it's not an easy thing to do, and most of the time, we do it. Can everything be forgiven? If not, to what extents can we forgive? Can you think of a time when it's been hard for you to forgive someone's action, or has a person done something that you consider "unforgivable"?
I believe in forgiveness, but for me, there's a very small margin of things which I consider unforgivable. I used to have a friend that used to irritate me, and get into fights with me and my friend all the time. I talked to him less every time, but he turned very offensive in one argument with my friend and ended up labelling my country a "terrorist hellhole", even though I had done nothing and he knew this was highly offensive. I haven't spoken to him since, except for the few times he had asked for forgiveness and I had not given it to him.
He knew that he was being deliberately rude and that it would annoy me a lot. If he really wanted to mantain the little friendship we had, I think that he should not have said anything in the first place. To me, this was one of the few acts which I consider "unforgivable".
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
14 Nov 08
There are definately some things that are completely unforgivable in my life..for example child abuse ESPECIALLY when the abuser has no remorse for what they've done....rape is unforgivable....lying to me is ALWAYS a no no but the big life altering lives I wont forgive...Being cruel to my kids is another thing I wont forgive..
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@Zezloler (497)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Nov 08
I completely agree with you. If we look at the extremes, there's tons of things that definitely aren't worth forgiving, such as all the horrible deeds you mentioned. I doubt anyone considers those forgivable. I was thinking more of as what a friend would do to you though, and whether they could do something that you would never fogive them for.
Thanks for posting though, and good point.^_^
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
21 Nov 08
I easily forgive someone but like what you said it still depends upon his mistake. Sometimes I forgive but never forget it. So far, everytime we have a little misunderstanding with my friends we easily settle it down. Anyway most of our fights are minor problems only.
@Zezlol (409)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Nov 08
I try and forgive as often as I can, not to be the bigger person, but to offer others a chance to right their wrongs. On the other hand, there are cases where people don't learn from their mistakes (such as Jordan, in your example xD).
I, too, knew somebody who did something that I considered unforgivable for a while. She (Cindy) insulted my friend (you xD) many times and scarred friendships because of her immaturity and (fake) depression. Although, now I realize that there's no point in holding such grudges. Let it be, forget about it, there's no point in dwelling on their deliberate (or unintentional, in some cases) rudeness. I acknowledge their mistakes and I know what they did was wrong, however, there comes a time when we have to just let it go and silently forgive them.
Kiana out. (h)
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