how to stop siblings from fighting

United States
November 14, 2008 2:47pm CST
I have a 2 & 3 year old and they have already started fighting over toys. They love each other and hug all day long, but they sometimes get cranky and want to fight. I usually punish both of them if they are fighting, so that they will learn to work it out before mommy has to get involved. I am talking to my 3 year old about sharing and giving his brother another toy before he takes the one in his hand so the 2 year old doesn't fuss. This seems to work a bit. If anyone has other ideas to help me get them to work on sharing, it would be greatly appreciated. THanks.
2 responses
@robinemz (211)
• Philippines
15 Nov 08
i have two girls aged 1 and 2. i seldom see them fight but when i do, i enjoy looking at them for a few seconds. they just look! but anyway, afterwards i interrupt and give them advise or tell them who is right or who's done the wrong thing then we all play together
@Seppy1984 (2148)
• United States
14 Nov 08
Well I have gone through this so many times with my 2 year old son and my 2 year old neice. When ever they fight over toys when they are together I will look at both of them and tell them that there is many more cool toys in the bedroom. But when my neice takes a toy awayfrom him I will take the toy from her gently and give it back to my son and I then will kneel on my knees and talk to her nice and softly and let her know that she can go pick another toy out to play with. That always does the trick because then she gets the power to pick something else to play with. But if they both fight over the same toy for about 5 minutes I then take the toy and put it up so neither one of them plays with it. Now if it was to where they were older one thing you could do is sit them down to were they face each other and let them sit there till they come up with a plan them selves. They will sometimes do up shifts of who can play with it first and then who can play with it second. I learned that one in Parenting class and I have seen it work for other parents. Although I gotta say my dad can come up wtih the best punishments that does not include yelling at or spanking the children, and boy I hated it but it worked, well let me tell ya what it is, When my brother and I was younger, lets say almost 15 years ago we use to fight so bad and my dad would take us outside and have us stand in the yard and would tell us to hold hands and that every time a car went by we had to tell each other "I love you". Tell ya what we did not fight a whole cause of Hope this gives ya some ideas...Happy Mylotting