Why is finding love so hard now days

well girl, first of all, good things should not be searched. especially, for the right person to be with.. It will come in the right place and in the right time., Only God knows when to give us our destined someone :) so be patient.

I think once were with someone after a few years you really quit trying to please the other person so much and their habits get irritating and vice versa till you just wanna whack em on the head,lol.It's hard to keep the love alive but you have to really enjoy each other's company,respect each other and genuinely like them as a person.

its quite easy to find actually.. i find a new one every month ;)

I agree with you to certain extent. Love is hard to get nowadays, especially true love. There are many factors to be considered when we want to get into a relationship. It's not an easy thing for us to really get satisfy with our partner who we have chosen. We tend to make comparison with others and complain about our partner. It's true that we become more picky and choosy when we grow older,maybe we tend to think more when we get matured. Lol. But for me,love is quite simple,as long as we are comfortable and feel happy when we get along with that person,I think he or she is the right person who we want to spend the rest of our life with. Cheers.

Dear friend, Its not really hard find someone who u think loves u....mere relationship tricks will settle u with one....but yes,finding someone whom u can truely share all ur life is a very daunting task....But again we should find someone who meets our vibration to the closest. too much of conscious effort to choose someone best for us would end us up in a real mess,as there is no ideality or perfectionism in love. We should be caring ,adjustive & have faith on the partner. Good luck for u if you are searching for one.....

it is because people now a days can hardly differentiate wether it's lust or love.. there are a lot of reasons why it came to this kind of situation.. one of the factors are media.. We must be cautious on what to believe cause it really affects our capacity to determine love.. Remember that when u love, it is unconditional!! --------- stick to whatever makes you happy and keeps you happy

may be the relations have become very complicated these days. you are not able to trust anybody. love is also like that. you get it when you expected it least. may be some time like that will come.

I think because people are complicated. And physical attraction seems to be a big part of it, so people get together, partly because of the physical thing, then the complicatd part shows up and you find out they have alot of ideas you don't agree with and maybe can't live with. So now you've broken up and you have to start all over again but maybe you've learned something. It took me till I WAS 44 before I found someone, although I didn't go through a lot of relationships, I just went a very long time without anyone. I think the important thing to remember is unless you are exremly lucky, you're not going to find someone perfect. So don't try to be too picky or you may end up alone.

I believe - "where there is a will, there is a way". If you are really serious in finding someone special for you, you should try hard for it. If you have the will, you will get it. Love to me is a two way process and it is kind of understanding and adjustment between two individuals, if one can understand the other fellow and accept him/her with his negative and positive traits, I think, he/she would find his/her special one. Good Post!

Yes there are people who have met at a younger age and are satisfied with growing old together. There are some of us who have not done that and are still expecting to walk into a room and have our hearts go pitter patter when seeing the right one. The only time my heart goes pitter patter now is when I forget my heart medication and my grey hair and odd wrinkle does not inspire that in others. I think older people get set in their ways too, and some of us are still shy which does not help. I am not sure whether we get more picky although I am sure some of us do, but I think it is because we no longer have those raging hormones that blind us to the faults of others as we fall madly in love. I have noticed some people have become bitter about relationships having experienced bad ones too.

maybe because love is no longer like the fantasy IN FAIRY TALES NOW A DAYS BECAUSE MANY PEOPLE CHOOSE TO ALLOW THEIR MIND TO CONTROL EVERYTHING..

True love is so hard to find because people are running around packing on the distractions of life, via family, associates, church, work, relationships, charity, explorations of all kinds just to avoid the much needed experience of You. Too many people have experienced physical and or emotional trauma during their early stages of development and as a result of never having healed from their wounds, they they spend a lifetime searching for that healing through another. These individuals are looking for someone else to "fix" them or heal their pains. And once again love gets thwarted.

Luck had everything to do with how I met My Wife of over 24 years. When I was 20 years old I moved into My first apartment. Her Grandmother lived next door, and introduced Us. We had the thunderbolt hit Us. And while it has not been perfect, We are still together and have a wonderful 16 year old son to be proud of.

Love is a thing that just happens.

I think because we no longer live in the dreamworld that because you are in love that means your life will be a dream forever, we are now more aware of the realistic things in life and love and we want more for ourselves and I guess we are all a little more independent and fussy and I guess we all now know the marriage is a gamble so we are a lot pickerer and many not even willing to take that gamble...