How difficult is it to say No, to a friend?
By bodhisatya
@bodhisatya (2384)
India
November 20, 2008 6:50am CST
Recently, one of my close friend asked a favor which i wasn't willing to oblige. He asked me to drop his niece at her house. I was too busy to do this errand, but he was persistent.He is well aware of my hectic schedules but he was really insisting. At one point of time I really thought of saying a blank No, but I wonder, I couldn't. And against my will I had to oblige his request. How do you say No to someone close to you?
4 responses
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
21 Nov 08
Hi, I would bear that in mind and i agree he/she must understand. But frankly speaking when I am really stressed out then to reason with someone however trifle the matter is, poses a problem for me.
@rahulnavet (26)
• Australia
20 Nov 08
Well saying No is generally an art, but for me, when it comes to friend I am very clear on my views as we share a fair understanding and never feel bad on each other responses. Sometimes the situation is so itchy as yours, there seems to be no way out. But i should say that it just a matter of time, before both friends can understand each others commitment. So, your feeling for not saying a straight No is enough for keeping you and your friend's bond intact and strong.
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
20 Nov 08
HI Rahul, Yup i belive, to understand the other guy is very important in order to make a relationship going, as you said. Thnks Bodhisatya
@max1950 (2306)
• United States
20 Nov 08
maybe it comes with age because i have "no problem at all" telling a friend "no".your young,on the move and need to take time for yourself,asking is 1 thing but being persistent and a pest is another and if he can't understand that tuff he'll get over it and if not he's really not your friend.you don;t have to explain it just say no.got it ? good.
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
20 Nov 08
Wow, I would remember that. I would try to be more straight forward. Anyways, thanks a lot for your suggestion. Cheers, Bodhi
