**Have you been disappointed by your engagement proposal?**

@jezabel (283)
Canada
November 7, 2006 9:14pm CST
Could he/she have done better?
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12 responses
@hitesh369 (534)
• India
8 Nov 06
No, 1st choice is final choice.
@jezabel (283)
• Canada
10 Nov 06
huh?
@jezabel (283)
• Canada
10 Nov 06
huh?
@zuri25 (2127)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Yeah I was disappointed. We had been fighting pretty heavily for a few weeks prior. On the day he proposed we had another argument and I was so sick of having the same fights over and over again that I threw up my hands and said I can't do this anymore and broke up with him. Shortly after that convo. I went upstairs and took a nap. When I woke up and went downstairs there was a wrapped present on the table. I thought it was for his mother who had just had a birthday. He was sitting out on the back deck and told me to get the box. So then I thought it might be an "I'm sorry" gesture. Turns out it was my engagement ring. He didn't get up, I had to kneel down to him. He proposed by saying that he really felt like I was leaving him and he didn't want that to happen because he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. I accepted because I didn't want to lose him either. Talk about romance, right? Psht!
@zuri25 (2127)
• United States
8 Nov 06
We haven't gotten married yet. Life has kinda gotten in the way and we can't afford to even THINK about getting married yet. It's not a good time for other reasons as well; reasons that will be kept private. I do believe that we will get married eventually and that we will have a long and happy life together. Thanks for asking.
@MrsAdvice (623)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Very! We had only been dating 7 weeks and he suddenly decided he wanted to marry me right away because, "When you know, you know" so he wanted to take me to the spot where we had our first kiss and ask me, but we were going to a movie next, and so we had a time to be there, and he did not have time to go to the special spot. It was my fault we were running late, when he said he wanted to talk to me I was dragging my feet, expecting him to break up with me or tell me he wanted to date other people or something, so that is why we did not have time to go to the special place so on the way to the movie he just told me he had wanted to go there and then told me he wanted to get married as quickly as possible, within the week if I could get the arrangements made. It was such a shock I did not see much of the movie, I was just staring at the screen and planning my wedding in my head. Three years and still happy as can be! I guess the marriage is more important than the proposal!
@jezabel (283)
• Canada
8 Nov 06
Great story!
• United States
8 Nov 06
Yea only the first time though. The second was perfect.
@jezabel (283)
• Canada
8 Nov 06
cool...me too!
• United States
27 Apr 08
The firs one wasn't great, and neither was the second. With the first one, he had his grandmother's ring. (This was with his mom's permission; his grandmother was already deceased). Three days later, the mom took the ring back, citing that if we broke up, I'd probably keep the ring. She had no right to judge me like that - I'm not a thief. he promised to get me a ring to replace it but he never did, and he was abusive anyway. Anyway, he got on one knee in the middle of our living room and asked me. I don't even remember what he said because it wasn't really romantic things that he said to me. It was more like a plain old conversation. With the decond one, it was Velentine's Day (he wasn't being original, #1). Number two, he left the gift bag on my favorite chair. Like another user who posted an answer to this topic, I thought it was a gift for his mother. I asked him, "are we going to see your mom tomorrow?" He said, "No, why?" I pointed to the bag in the chair. He said, "Oh, no, that's yours." He then stepped off into the kitchen while I opened it. I opened it and it was a plain, very small ring. Very pretty, but very plain and simple. I really liked it, but I was confused. It looked more like a promise ring than an engagement ring. He popped out from the kitchen and said a huffy, "Well...?!" I looked at him and asked, "Is this what I think it is?" He said, "Well, yeah!" His tone of voice was like he was saying, "well duh." I was crushed at that point. It's bad enough I didn't get a proper proposal from the first guy; now this? Is this what I deserve? He said, "Well, do ya like it or not?" So I mocked him and said, "WELL YEAH....!!" I was soooo disappointed. I ended up giving the ring back and told him why. His method was less than appealing, and I thought all this time that if a man really wanted to marry a woman, that he would try to woo her - have flowers, get on one knee, etc. You know - MAKE AN EFFORT. I personally have given up on getting married and being proposed to properly.
• United States
9 Apr 07
I was definitely disappointed. He just asked me casually over the phone..I can't be too mad about that though as it's kind of a long distance relationship. (Not by choice though.)
• Australia
10 Nov 06
yes, i have been engaged for 15 years and have been given 3 engagement rings(all from the same person)and still waiting for my actual wedding , which i somehow dont think is ever going to happen.
• United States
10 Nov 06
No, very happy.
@ausnikki (4058)
• Brisbane, Australia
10 Nov 06
Yes,definately.My proposal was "well,will you marry me or not?".not exactly romantic huh lmao
@kesfylstra (1870)
• United States
8 Nov 06
No I think he did a wonderful job. It was a Christmas present, but he first had me open the wrapping paper which revealed the box for a neon sign shaped like a boat. In my head I am thinking, oh boy, what is this? Then I opened the box and it was a scrapbook that I had wanted. I was pleased, but still was a little disappointed because I had kind of been expecting it. Then I opened the scrapbook, and there it was on the first page, tied with ribbon on a velvet background. It was beautiful. He got on one knee and asked if I would marry him, and I said you know I will. I think he was a little disappointed with my response, but oh well, its what came out first!
@NayNay579 (182)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Yes, never really got one. It was just decided. Talk about no romance. Guess that's why I love romance movies so much.
@jray721 (1973)
• United States
8 Nov 06
eh i wasnt dissapointed, he just never got on his knee to propose =/