What is a lie?

United States
November 21, 2008 9:02am CST
I am not the best housekeeper in the world, I admit that. My guy had ask me to make sure my daughter was cleaning the kitchen right. He said he kills bugs at work all day he didn't want to kill them at home too. I told him the kitchen would get better. The problem is I didn't check close enough behind my daughter and she was hiding dirty dishes in the stove. He now says that because I didn't keep a close enough eye on her I lied to him. He says that now he can't trust me and isn't sure he wants to continue the relationship. He doesn't talk to me unless I talk first and there is no affection from him at all. Do I deserve this?
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@jlovesbsb (245)
• United States
21 Nov 08
no don't think you deserve that. i think he's just being childish and everyone lies, even he did at some point in the relationship. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him why he's being like that. Trust when broken is hard to get back, so good luck and try not to lie.
• United States
21 Nov 08
I have talk to him. He says it's black and white. I said I would do something and i didn't. So it's a lie. I have Talked,pleaded,cried, acted like nothing is wrong, and at the moment I'm just acting like he doesn't exist to see if that will bring him around. I mean it's been weeks.
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• United States
21 Nov 08
maybe it's more than that. Maybe he's upset at something else expect for the thing you said you were going to do that you didn't do. did you get into an argument with him before this incident? if not, then i don't know what wrong with him. i just don't understand why he would get upet over that. hearing that you are bothered by this whole situation shows that you care how he feels. aawww... that's really sweet. i just think something wrong with him.
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@ricknkae (1726)
• United States
22 Nov 08
If it is only based on the situation you described then it looks liek he is making excuses and seems to be trying to find a reason to leave ... I really do not see why he would be having trust issues based on such a situation However, it shows that there might be a problem in your relationship (sorry :( ) Has cleaning always been an issue between the 2 of you ? I mean I do not have enough detail but it seem the problem is beyond cleaning or dirty dishes Good luck to you
• United States
23 Nov 08
We haven't been together long enough for it to be a real issue. I was upfront when we first got together about the fact I am not a great housekeeper he said he was ok with it. He told me the other night it is now a trust issue. Now I have a trust issue, can i trust he would break my heart?