My son won't stay out of trouble any advice?

@krysy1982 (1042)
United States
November 21, 2008 12:56pm CST
My son who is 8 is constantly getting in trouble at school. I have tried every method I know and he continues to do these things. Any advise?
1 response
@BubblyIan (751)
21 Nov 08
It depends on several issues. Does your son behave badly at home as well? In what circumstances is he misbehaving? What is his relationship like with his father? Does he have mental health problems? Is he too clever or a slow learner? Does he have any friends and does he talk to them? Does he have any siblings? Older or younger? Generally schools try to get kids to behave by punishing them. This is unlikely to work in the longer term. If it is the same problem with you, you need to look at how you are rewarding and punishing him. Kids are generally trying to please their parents - you will need to find out a way of rewarding his better behaviour and then withdrawing that reward when he misbehaves. Too many parents just relate to their children when they are naughty and ignore them when they are good - this negative feedback makes their behaviour worse. Maybe try and find out what he would really like to be doing - one to one and try and do some things focussed on him for a while - then withdraw them if he is still naughty. Let us know how you get on.