My Son went happily to school today!
By heavenschild
@heavenschild (4777)
Canada
November 28, 2008 11:30am CST
I was so impressed with him today!
He was upset early this morning but I sat sown on the couch and held him in my arms and had a nice talk with him to explain that I loved him and school was a nice place to be etc. It seems to have worked for me today!
I am so proud of him today...I still need to get down to the bottom of what is going on though to have made him this way!
To Make this a discussion, when was the last time you had to do some strategic parenting? What were the circumstances and how well did it work for you?
~Heavens~
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@AmbiePam (85498)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Not having any children, I have never had to deal with this situation. But I imagine it would be hard for me. I know my mom had to deal with my intense hatred for school when I was younger. I didn't like going, and sometimes I worried myself so much, I got sick. It took me a while to get over it. Of course I was incredibly shy.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
Hello Pam!
I do so appreciate you being the first one in here 
AS a background to this discussion, here is a discussion I started earlier this week to make this make more sense!
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1809983.aspx
I too was shy in school being an only child but rarely missed school and never gave my parents any difficulty in going as I wanted to go even though I had next to no friends!
I find my son's Autism to be most challenging when thrown into parenting!
~Heavens~
AS a background to this discussion, here is a discussion I started earlier this week to make this make more sense!
http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1809983.aspx
I too was shy in school being an only child but rarely missed school and never gave my parents any difficulty in going as I wanted to go even though I had next to no friends!
I find my son's Autism to be most challenging when thrown into parenting!
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
It sure is! I must say I spent by the time I got him to school on Wednesday...
Pulling, pushing, carrying my 42lb boy all the way a struggle to get him there!
I was so sad and frustrated! I am so glad that today was the complete opposite! I hope this continues to be good come Monday!
~Heavens~
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@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
28 Nov 08
Glad to hear he went to school and is happy to go again. My son thankfully still loves school and has for three years now. He did refuse to get out of my car last weekend all cause he didnt get dinner where he wanted to go. I just went into the house and left him in the car and he did come out after a while.
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
29 Nov 08
Thanks Minnie, I just hope it lasts...I never know from one day to the next what is going to happen with him these days!
~Heavens~
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
29 Nov 08
I too hope that it stays this way!
~Heavens~
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
Hi heavens,
I'm so happy for you and your son, regarding this turnaround. You're right though, you'll have to see what you can figure out, from talking with his teacher and his EA. So many challenges ahead. It must be hard not knowing what's going to happen from day to day, in this regard. Talking with him was a good way to handle things.
When my daughter was in the fourth grade, she couldn't stand her teacher. I must say, the woman was 'strange' to say the least. My daughter would fake illness, or if all else failed, she'd beg not to go to school. I was at my wit's end! There was loss of school time, and thankfully she never had a teacher like that again. The woman should have been reported by more parents. I'm pretty sure I wrote several notes to the principal. One day, in below zero temperatures, 'she' kicked the whole class outside without their boots on (into the snow.) They were taking too long to get their outdoor clothing on, according to this woman. 
As for my strategic parenting, well it's an ongoing thing with me these days. Sometimes I fail miserably, but I keep trying. With all of the important decisions coming up in the future, I need to make sure my daughter knows 'all' of the pros and cons of each possible choice. I have no idea which direction all of this will take, so it's very unsettling (as you know.)
Hugs
I'm so happy for you and your son, regarding this turnaround. You're right though, you'll have to see what you can figure out, from talking with his teacher and his EA. So many challenges ahead. It must be hard not knowing what's going to happen from day to day, in this regard. Talking with him was a good way to handle things.
When my daughter was in the fourth grade, she couldn't stand her teacher. I must say, the woman was 'strange' to say the least. My daughter would fake illness, or if all else failed, she'd beg not to go to school. I was at my wit's end! There was loss of school time, and thankfully she never had a teacher like that again. The woman should have been reported by more parents. I'm pretty sure I wrote several notes to the principal. One day, in below zero temperatures, 'she' kicked the whole class outside without their boots on (into the snow.) They were taking too long to get their outdoor clothing on, according to this woman.
As for my strategic parenting, well it's an ongoing thing with me these days. Sometimes I fail miserably, but I keep trying. With all of the important decisions coming up in the future, I need to make sure my daughter knows 'all' of the pros and cons of each possible choice. I have no idea which direction all of this will take, so it's very unsettling (as you know.)
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@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
29 Nov 08
Thanks. I am doing my best to believe this, even though I find it so stressful. I hope and pray, that your son will continue to receive all of the help he needs. There really does need to be more awareness of this condition, made to the general public.
Hugs
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@heavenschild (4777)
• Canada
29 Nov 08
Hello Mom!
Yes, you and I are at opposite ends of the spectrum with our children but both with many challenges at this time I know! Much uncertainty in both situations also!!!
I do wish your daughter all the best and we have to believe that she will make the right choice for her! AS for my boy, time will tell I guess!
~Heavens~
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